Showing posts with label May 08 edition. Show all posts
Showing posts with label May 08 edition. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

May 2008 Edition

Mother's Day is just around the corner and all of us here at Heart of the Matter would like to be the first to wish you a wonderful and joyous week in honor of all you do!

I remember when I learned that I was about to become a mom for the first time. The thoughts of the future of my little one were vivid, endless, and sometimes overwhelming. What diapers should I use? How long should I breast feed? What doctor should he go to? Where should I send him to school?

It's funny to think back on that now because I had no idea then that I would be homeschooling him today. I never would have dreamed we would form the bond that we now have and I can honestly say I would never have experienced it without homeschooling him. We spend so much time together: we laugh, we learn, we experiment, and we play. It is amazing!

I know that one of the most important decisions that I have ever made concerning my boys was the one to homeschool them. I get to experience first hand the fruit of my labor (literally), and that is the greatest Mother's Day gift I could ever ask for!

Due to recent events including a need for my computer to be rebuilt, the pdf for this month's magazine will be delayed. We are sorry for the inconvenience.



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In this month's issue:
Insectigations (Giveaway included!!)
What Do You Do If Your Child Decides They Want To "Go To School"?
Schedules
Fragrances Pleasing to God
Will you let yourself be blessed? (Giveaway included!!)
How to tell WHY Your Child is Struggling (Part 1 of 4)
Rigor, Relevance, and Relationships
Where the Lord Guides, He Provides
Power in the Blood
Common Misuses of Analogy in Homeschool Criticism
The Autism Spectrum
Slowing Down The Pace
Because Life Happens: Happy Mother's Day
When Winning 'Does Not Compute'
How to Shop the Drugstores
Chaos to Order Book Review
From Our Readers

This month's printables:
Nature Journal Pages for your 3-6 year old
Nature Walk Guides for little ones under 4 years old
Eric Carle Multi-Book Unit Study for The Grouchy Ladybug (with lapbook!), The Honeybee and the Robber, The Very Busy Spider, The Very Clumsy Click Beetle, The Very Hungry Caterpillar, The Very Lonely Firefly, and The Very Quiet Cricket

All of these printables are courtesy of Homeschool Share

Important Upcoming Dates:
May 9 - Friday Meme: The Way We Socialize
May 11 - Mother's Day winner announced
May 16 - Friday Meme: Field Trips
May 16 - Dianne's Birthday
May 17 - Devotional Study: Lies Homeschooling Moms Believe Chapter 2
May 23 - Friday Meme: Outdoor Classrooms
May 26 - Stacey's Birthday
May 30 - Friday Meme: Most Exciting Homeschool Moment
May 31 - Devotional Stufy: Lies Homeschooling Moms Believe Chapter 3
June 1 - Unit Study Day
June 6 - Friday Meme: How Do You Schedule?
June 7 - Sallie's Birthday
June 9 - 18...in honor of Father's Day we will be letting the DADS take over the Heart of the Matter Online. It will be educational as well as entertaining.

We have the First Annual Heart of the Matter Online Virtual Homeschool Conference coming up July 31 - August 3. We have many amazing speakers lined up as well as vendors to meet all your homeschooling needs...and wants! You can check out the new conference site for more information and to sign up for the event.

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Please remember to keep our sister and team member Robin Sampson in your prayers.

May 2008 cover photo courtesy of Keri from Sunny Blog.

Insectigations


I don’t mean to give you the heebie-jeebies, but did you know that at any given moment you are no more than 3 feet away from a BUG! Most of the bugs within your radius are so small that you could never see them without a high powered microscope. Don’t get freaked out, don’t go run to take a shower, and don’t start over sanitizing your house. Remember these bugs are still God’s creations and everything God makes is GOOD.

Without these bugs the world would be a dirty place! Without the teeny-tiny dust mite, your house would be caked with dust and dirt and dead skin flakes no matter how often you dusted. Without bees, many kinds of vegetation would die out. Bugs help to decompose dead animals as well as the fur and hair from living animals. Without the strange dung beetle, the world would be full of you-know-what.

It is a fact that our world needs bug to survive. God sure knew what He was doing, but doesn’t He always.

So say it with me, “I like bugs, bugs are good, bugs are my friends.” Great…now let’s go catch some. There are several ways to make a “bug trap.”

Trap #1
Cut the top off of a small plastic soda bottle. Turn the top upside down and insert it into the bottom. Drop a few small pieces of insect-attracting food such as raw meat, or sweet smelling fruits, into the bottle. Insects especially love bananas and peaches. Dig a small hole into the ground and place the bottle in the hole so that the edge of the trap is even with the ground. Bugs will follow the scent to the trap, fall in and not be able to climb back out. Be sure to check the trap in the morning, as more bugs come out at night.

Trap #2
This next trap is actually called a pooter. It is simply a vacuum cleaner for bugs.

You will need:
* A small glass or plastic jar with lid
* 30” of thin plastic tubing
* a scrap of muslin or nylon
* an elastic band
* small amount of clay

Cut the tube into two bits, one 20” long, the other 10” long. Cover one end of the short tube with the scrap of muslin and secure it with the elastic band. (This will stop you from sucking up the bug.) Cut two holes in the jar lid to push the tubes through. Fix the tubes in place with the clay or anything similar, making sure any gaps are sealed. Place the end of the long tube over the bug you'd like to have a look at. Suck gently on the end of the short tube. Your sucking creates a vacuum in the tube, which will pull the bug into your jar.

Trap #3
Place a large white poster board under a tree or bush. Shake the branches. You are sure to see a number of bugs fall from the tree onto your poster board.

Trap #4
Make a thin sugary concoction from mashed banana, sugar water or fruit juice, and honey. Use a paint brush to coat a tree trunk or fence post with the sweet smelling liquid. After dark, take a flashlight with you after and inspect the trunk or post. Gently scoop the bugs into a container for inspection indoors.

Trap #5
Create the above concoction but pour it onto a tin pie plate. Punch holes in the side and attach a string. Hang it a tree to attract butterflies

There are about 3 million species of bugs in the world, you are bound to find a good variety in your own backyard. Please encourage your children to be respectful to the bugs they collect. God took the time to hand craft these little buggers. He personally knows each one of them just as He personally knows each one of us.

Here are some more fascinating bug facts:
  • All insects have 3 body segments, 6 legs, and 2 antennae. If a creepy crawly doesn’t meet all the criteria, it is not an insect. Contrary to popular belief, spiders are NOT insects; they have 8 legs and no antennae.

  • Aphids are born pregnant and can give birth 10 days after being born themselves.

  • Dragonflies are one of the fastest insects, flying 50 to 60 mph.

  • Each year, insects eat 1/3 of the Earth's food crop.

  • In its entire lifetime, the average worker bee produces 1/12th teaspoon of honey. The total distance of the many trips honey bees travel to produce a pound of honey is about equal to twice the distance around the world.

  • The leap of an average flea is equivalent to a 100 pound man leaping 1,000 and enduring a g-force of 20,000 pounds with an acceleration greater than that of a space shuttle.


For this article, I had the pleasure of reviewing the Amazing Insects kit from Treasure Box Press. What a fitting name for this company, because they offer just that – treasures in a box. Founders Michelle Eichhorn and Cindy Hullings have created the perfect products for the homeschool science teacher. Easy to use, fun, and best of all, everything you need arrives on your doorstep in one cute treasure box!

(By the way, did you know that one of Sam’s Science Adventure kits by Treasure Box Press was rated #1 by a panel of homeschooling moms and their tween daughters in 2005.)

The insect kit was just upgraded to include more activities. This kit can be adapted for preschool to 6th grade and is loaded with helpful worksheets, kid-friendly explanations, and review diagrams. Kids can create a Mexican Ant mask to wear, construct a bee hive, and build their own insect from a bag full of craft goodies.

Michelle and Cindy have also included activities to help the child see what it would be like if they were an insect as they learn how fast an insect’s heart beats and exactly how an insect’s vision works.

There is even a teacher’s manual which includes answer keys, activity extenders, field trip, website, and book lists. Also included are a very easy to use bug catcher/container and pocket sized bug guide that I am sure your future entomologist will not want to put down!

Treasure Box Press has generously donated an Insect Kit to one lucky reader. In addition to the insect kit, they are including 2 Uncle Milton Ant Farms, which can hook together with a connecting tube, so the ants can move in between. All you need to do to enter the giveaway is leave a comment telling me about a science-related activity you have done and enjoyed. **This giveaway ends on May 16th**



Amy is a Classical homeschooling mom to a six-year-old Superhero. In her column “Through the Microscope,” she writes about the beauty of science and finding God’s handprint through the miracle of everyday elements and processes. Be sure to visit her blog at Milk and Cookies.

Please visit our friends at Castle Heights Press!

What Do You Do If Your Child Decides They Want To "Go To School"?



I have had many homeschool moms ask me this question. What DO you do if your child decides he wants to "go to school?" My answer is...I can't answer that for you!

Let me explain.

We live in an amazing country. I am very grateful that for some reason, God saw fit to have me "be born" in this country that offers such opportunity and freedom. When it comes to educating our children we have several options to choose from. I think that is wonderful! Right now our children have such incredible opportunities and resources, and if we want, we can fit their education to meet their exact needs.

As parents we need to be praying diligently over our children and ask God what is the best fit for our children. Some children may thrive in a public school setting, some in a private school, and some in a home school. God knows which is best for them. That is why we need to FIRST consult HIM, and be open to how He may lead us.

Each family, and each child, is unique and may do things a little differently. One thing that we need to be careful about not doing is having our own philosophy or agenda, and forcing our kids to fit into a particular mold. There are many books, organizations, and websites out there that tell us that a "godly person" should homeschool. They may tell us how we should look and dress, and even what kind of music we should listen to. It is very important that we be sensitive to our children, their uniqueness and tastes, as well as how God has made them. Over the years I have observed some very frustrated children as their well meaning parents tried to follow a philosophy or curriculum that did not "fit" their child, and tried to force them into a particular mold. I have also seen some children who have had expectations forced on them by their parents. It seemed as if the children were not allowed to be unique or to be "in process."

All this to say that I cannot tell you what to do with your child, only God can. I do not know what is best, but God does. If your child comes to you one day and expresses that he wants to go to school, maybe it is time to evaluate whether or not his needs are being met. Ask him why he wants to go to school. If there is something he feels he is missing out on, like sports, an activity, or even friendship, make sure he knows that you HEAR HIM and that you will begin praying about how that need might be met. If our children know we are listening to them, on their side and sensitive to what they are feeling, it makes such a difference.

Start to pray about the areas that you child has expressed interest in. Investigate how these needs might be met through church or community activities. There are so many opportunities out there now for homeschoolers that I don't think that we need to just automatically put them in school, although that might happen eventually if the Lord leads that way.

Just this year my son, who is 14, began expressing that there were a few things he wished he could do. He didn't necessarily wish he could go to school, but he was feeling that something was lacking. I told him that I would begin to pray about those things and I started to do some research. I even talked with my husband about the possibility of putting him in school next year. We didn't want to, but we thought we should at least be open to that. As we've prayed, God has opened some wonderful doors of opportunity for our son. When that happens, I make sure to point out how God provides for him. He has seen his parents actively praying and trusting God, and he has seen God provide for him. I think that is exciting!

My daughter has gone through times when she has wished she had more friends. Of course my mother's heart has hurt for her. I could manipulate things and make it happen, but down deep I know that if it isn't a Godsend, it will not be good for her. I have prayed. I also went to a godly older woman for council. What she shared with me made so much sense. She told me that her (now grown) daughter went through a time when she would come home from school in tears because she didn't have a good friend. There were also times when she did have closer friends. She said that those times that her daughter didn't have close friends were the times that God used to cause them to become very close as mother and daughter. It is fun to watch this woman and her grown daughter as they are very close, even though the daughter is married with a child. I have been seeing this happen in my own relationship with my daughter, and am very grateful and see such wisdom in God withholding friendship in her life at times. Think about what we would be missing out if I were always trying to provide friendships for my daughter. It would have hindered what God wanted to do.

It is so important to pray over your children's needs. If we rush to meet a perceived need without consulting God, it might end up being a bad thing. If we wait on the Lord and leave it to Him, He will make it clear what He wants to fill our children's lives with. He loves them even more than we do. Of course He will do what is best for them!

If you've done your research and have prayed, and you still see areas of need in your child's life, maybe it is time to consider putting them in school. I don't know. Only God can tell you that for sure. Pray like crazy. Give God time to make it clear. You can be sure He will!




Gina is the mom of two high schoolers, a freshman and a Senior. In her column "Reaching High," she shares the many lessons that God has taught her and her family, as they have sought Him through the years. Visit her at her blog, Chats with An Old Lady.

Schedules


For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1
Time management is one area that greatly affects my ability to teach my children at home. I wrote in an earlier post about prioritizing. Once you have prioritized and weeded out activities, having a plan of action to carry things out is of great importance. One of the best ways to manage your time is, in my opinion, with a working schedule. I will readily admit that this is an area that needs continual work in my household.

Schedules must be revamped often. As the scripture above says, "for everything there is a season." There are different things that happen in our lives that will interrupt your plans and schedules and these call for adjustments. In our home we are going through a few of those "seasons." We have the season of an upcoming move and the season of morning sickness. Once your schedule is in place, try not to be so rigid that you cannot adjust for a change in season or a surprise storm or two.

A schedule is simply a written plan for ordering those things you deem as priorities into your day. You designate blocks of your time for specific activities. It helps you to find the time to accomplish the tasks you have before you. It can also relieve some of the stress of life because you have a plan. It is a way to direct your children to the next activity for the day without constantly being interrupted with questions about what to do next.

Everyone has a different comfort level when it comes to how much structure to put into their day. I find that the larger my family becomes the more structure, the better. There is simply more to accomplish than before and I need to have a plan of attack.

I came across a great book that has been a tremendous help. What first caught my eye was the fact that the author was also a homeschooling mother of eight. She is someone who can relate to the sheer volume of things that pertain to a large family. I thought if this worked for her large family then I could implement some of her ideas and have them work for me, too! Her book would even be helpful for smaller families.

I ran into a friend who also used this book to organize her household. She is the mother of seven. She uses this plan and it enables her to manage her time wisely. When I received my book, I read if cover to cover in the first day. I was so excited! I pulled out the toolkit that came with it and began to put our schedule together. After three days of trying to make this schedule work, I called my friend crying. I simply could not fit everything into our day. Her words of advice reminded me that I could do all that the Lord desired me to do but I could not necessarily do everything that I desired to do! I needed to prioritize and cut out some things. I simply cannot do everything that a mother of two has time to accomplish. I have more children with many more levels of educational needs. After prayer and discussion with my husband, I cut and cut some more. At last I had a working schedule.

It takes time and effort to implement a schedule and get the family started. Once you have committed to it and worked at it for a while you will begin to fall naturally into a routine. You learn what takes longer and what is done more quickly. You simply adjust your schedule to fit your family. I found that I needed several schedules, almost one for everyday. Some days we had piano and other days we had to finish early for AWANA.

I do not currently have a written schedule. We have not used one this past year and I feel as if we have not accomplished nearly as much as we should have. After we are settled into our new home, a new schedule will appear and be implemented. My life is simply easier when we have one.

I suggest sticking as closely to your schedule as possible when you first start. This will help you to develop the habit of "running a tight ship." Once you have that, make more adjustments. You can determine then how strictly to follow your schedule. It will differ for all of us. My friend that I mentioned above follows hers to the "T." Her life is extremely structured and her family thrives under that structure! I am a bit more relaxed. As an example, I do not schedule my nursing babies and need some flexibility. The main idea here is to have a plan, a written plan. Not just to have a written plan but one that is actually workable!

Take some time and schedule your priorities and see how much more you will accomplish. Do you currently have a working schedule? Have you ever used this book? What have you found are the benefits of scheduling? Leave me a comment and let's have a discussion about it to encourage each other in our efforts!


Here is that wonderful book I mentioned.

It's written by Steve and Terri Maxwell.

I highly recommend this for those looking to manage their home in a more effective way. There is such great information and the toolkit is included. If you look on their website you will find testimonials, information on what else is included, and schedules from other moms.

MANAGERS OF THEIR HOMES




Kristine is the wife of a pastor who is currently serving as a chaplain in the military. She is also the mother of eight wonderful children and schools them using the Classical Christian method. In her column, "Ducks in a Row," she writes about the challenges, joys, and logistics of homeschooling a large family. Visit her at her blog, Mama Archer.

Fragrances Pleasing to God



Take a deep breath in. It's SPRING! There are lovely scents all around us. Just the other night as I was walking, the smell of fresh cut grass and the lilac bushes in my driveway penetrated the air. What wonderful fragrances from our Creator. But just what kind of "scent" pleases HIM?

I sit here and think about just what kind of aroma am I sending heaven~ward? On my walk I was reminded of a devotional that I had seen several years ago by Sue Brage about fragrances pleasing to God. I'd even done a girl's Bible Study on it. The smells as I walked along caused me to reflect even more.

I know what pleases God, and it's not my fresh baked brownies from a box - if only it were THAT easy. What pleases God are those scents that I send upward from inside myself. It's my ACTIONS wafting heaven~ward that grab God's attention.
"Our lives are a fragrance presented by Christ to God...a life giving perfume."
2Corinthians 2:15
Our lives can be the aromas that "please God!" As we look to the springtime for renewal, we can look at our lives and evaluate IF this life of ours is sending the kind of scents that make God pause and notice, just as I did on my walk. Had I walked past a trash can or some sort of animal dropping (and I did), my reaction would have been one of disgust or displeasure. It was in those pleasing smells that I paused and wanted to linger, they took my breath away!

We need the daily reminder that what truly pleases God comes from within us. It's found in the actions and details of our lives.
~in praise

"Therefore I will praise you O Lord, among the nations; I will sing PRAISES to your name."
2Samuel 22:50
I find it in filling my days with uplifting songs, with hitting that "pause" button before I utter anything out of my mouth. Praising Him can be simply noticing the blessings in my life, that yes, are often found in the midst of a geometry lesson or a mountain of laundry. Praising HIM all the day long will be pleasing. No complaining, just PRAISING!

~in prayer~
"Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, and faithful in PRAYER."
Romans 12:12
Taking the time to TALK to my Savior as if He were sitting right beside me. Having a constant conversation with HIM is the goal. Finding time in the busy homeschool day to "be still" and linger in His presence. It's in simple, daily acts of prayer that pleasing aromas release!
~in sacrifice~
"And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such SACRIFICES God is pleased."
Hebrews 13:16
A.R.K. (Acts of Random Kindness) noticing the little acts of service that need done can be a daily way to "smell" lovely. In doing what we know is right, helping a friend, taking time out for another mom, sharing time with the elderly, giving and serving the poor through church or outreach are all acts of service that God loves.

~in obedience~
"And this is love; that we walk in OBEDIENCE to His commands. As you have heard from the beginning His command is that you walk in love."
2John 1:6
We instill in our children the laws of obedience and perhaps need to gently remind ourselves what is required of us. Loving those who are challenging is a wonderful place to start, after all it IS the GREATEST commandment Jesus left us.

~in service~

"There are different kinds of SERVICE but the same Lord."~ 1Corinthians 12:5
Daily we serve others, our spouses, our children, our friends, our neighbors and strangers. Evaluate that service, are there areas that could be improved upon or perhaps an adjustment in our attitude of serving others?

One of the best things that we can do is DAILY remind ourselves of these habits. It is in our obedience in the call to homeschool that we send up a beautiful scent. It is in praising Him through songs dispersed into our day that we cause the Creator to linger. It is in our unceasing prayers tha
t He can delight in our aromas, just as joyfully serving our family, friends, and community sends beautiful smells up to the heavens.

Oh yeah, be warned, we don't always SMELL so good. There are days we just plain STINK! The scent that moves heaven~ward is less than lovely. It's not pretty, it's sharp tongued, it's judgmental, it's unkind and unwilling to serve others. It's selfish and unbendable.

Spending time surrounded by pleasant scents makes us feel wonderful, shouldn't we remind ourselves that our God loves those things too...those fragrances that are uniquely YOU. He'd love to "
get a WHIFF" of you today. Nothing would PLEASE Him more!


Father,
Every good thing scent comes from above. Thank you for allowing me to be a part of the splendor in your creation. Help me to the kind of fragrance to the world that pleases YOU. I know it is not in earthly smells that you delight, but in the unique creation that is me. Guide me gently, Father, to look to what pleases You and live the life that Jesus taught me to live. I want to walk as a disciple, scattering joy and hope, peace and love to all those that I meet daily. Father, I trust in Your will for my life. Help me to embrace this life that is my own and offer it up for You. Thank You for it all, Lord. I pray to walk in Your will every step of the way, smelling lovely all the days of my life.

In Jesus' name,
AMEN~

**Just A little extra note from me!!**


When I did this lesson with a group of girls we planted flowers into clay pots that we decorated with the words; prayer, obedience, service, praise and sacrifice. Ours still sit outside on the back deck reminding us constantly of the "fragrance" we are sending up to God.




Lori is a 4 year homeschool mom to 3. Currently a 7th grader, a 5th grader and a 3rd grader. Lori insists that when she was wrestling with the decision to home school, a gentle voice guided her with the words, "you know what you should do." Never looking back, accepting the challenges and rewards and CONSTANTLY clinging to THE ROCK..."No Storm can shake my inmost calm when to this ROCK I'm clinging." "Raise Your Hands" is an inspirational column while, as the Beatles so eloquently put it, we walk "this long and winding road," together. Hoping to impart peace and inspiration amidst the daily chaos. Be sure to visit her blog at All You Have to Give.

Will you let yourself be blessed? AND, a Giveaway!!!


Bright red hair.

Sparkling blue eyes.

Pale porcelain skin speckled with a dash of freckles.

A smile that stretched from lips to eyes and melted into your heart a permanent reminder of her face.

Pudgy little fingers made perfect for a constant need of smoothing out her pretty lavender dress.

And clinched as tight as possible to my husband, whom she had just met!!


This was the sight that my eyes beheld on a recent Sunday morning as I walked into the sanctuary at church. Erica immediately released him and came to give me hugs. I think I love this little girl already!

Erica was visiting our church for the first time (hers) with her great-grandmother who has been a teacher to at least one, if not more, of my boys in her Sunday School class every year since we moved to the desert six years ago. Erica had been able to spend the night with Grama Jackie and so she came to church. She loved it! She loved Sunday School! She loved the other children! She loved the people! She is just a love kind of gal, you might say!

Soon after meeting Erica, I realized she is a special needs child. Her Grama was singing in choir and so Erica sat with us. I noticed she didn't talk well but that she was at least 9 years old. That didn't scare me away because I understand special needs children. I just did my best to communicate and gave her lots of hugs. I started asking questions when choir was finished and we had a short pause in the service for greeting. Is she deaf or mute? Does she have autism? The answers were "No."

However, when Erica was born she suffered from a brain injury during the birth process, so those areas of her brain that work to communicate were damaged, having suffered from a lack of oxygen. She knows sign language extremely well, and she can hear every word you say so "don't let her fool ya," Grama told me! "I won't," I promised, and so our new friendship began. Erica decided she was tired and laid down in my lap and fell asleep for the next hour. She cuddled and twisted and found her comfortable niche then fell asleep with no concerns of the world. I was blessed.

I read an article last year that said research had proven children naturally gravitate towards good samaritans. I'm sure they have clinical studies and such that prove that to be true but I have to say it seems more to me that children gravitate towards L-O-V-E. At least that is what my eyes have seen when I watch children, particularly special needs children - in school, church, and on the playgrounds around me. Maybe they are one and the same. I guess you can't really be a good samaritan if you don't have love, or at least compassion, in your heart. Most of the time everyone accepts a child wanting to play or talk with them. I mean, who doesn't love hugs and cuddles from a little one, right?

Too often, though, I have seen something else. Special needs children gravitate towards a person and they are shunned. They aren't allowed to play with "normal" children. Adults tend to have this fear that this different "thing" about a special child will rub off onto their child and they will somehow lose their perfectness. I have experienced this with my own son and cuddled him while the tears washed away the sorrow of his soul put on him by others telling him he wasn't ok.

The Bible says:

"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of
the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were
written in your book before one of them came to be." Psalm 139:
13-16

God is the ONE who created every single person on this great big HUGE planet earth! He KNOWS each and everyone of us and HE made us the way we are for a reason! There is NOT ONE PERSON who is imperfect in His eyes! I love that!

We sing a song at our church. The words simply say: The Lord has blessed me, blessed me, blessed me; The Lord's been good to me! The Lord has blessed me, blessed me, blessed me; the Lord's been good to me! The Lord has blessed me, blessed me blessed me; the Lord's been good to me! No one else can do what the Lord has done! No one else can do... No one else can do what the LORD has done!

AMEN!! I LOVE THAT!! No one else can form a child inside its mother! Science has come a long way but it will never be able to put a soul in a child or know of its every single day of life before they even live those days. In this day and age, science may even look at a child formed by God and say its not good enough and tell the mother carrying it that it should be terminated. Science doesn't know God! Science doesn't know the plans God has for that child! Science can get it wrong!! God NEVER does!!!

So, my question to you is will you let yourself be blessed by touching the life of a special needs child?! Honestly, I have to warn you, though, that it will probably be YOU who is getting the blessing! Can you agree with God that these children are wonderfully made? Take a chance of sharing love and say Hello the next time you see a child who is a little bit different than the other children around them... you'll be so glad you did!

Are you a blessed mom? Would you like to share the news with everyone around you?


We have been blessed this month to be able to offer you a handstamped necklace from Kristen's Custom Creations.
Kristen donates a portion of her proceeds for some of her jewelry to the Gilda Club, which is a non-profit group speciallizing in helping children with cancer.

She has so graciously donated an I Am Blessed necklace for one of our lucky readers!!
Kristen describes this necklace by saying,
'The "I Am Blessed" necklace includes two discs/round Sterling Silver charms, the smaller charm is 13mm and the larger is 16mm. It also includes a Swarovski charm dangle. The charms hang on a sturdy 16 inch snake chain. it has been blackened/antiqued to make the letters stand out.'

All of Kristen's hand stamped creations are just that: hand-stamped! They won't look perfect like a machine stamped, mass produced item but that is what I love about her work! This necklace is just perfect and I love it! I am so thrilled that we can share with one of our readers as well! So, go ahead and leave a comment on any two articles from this month's magazine, and our editors, Amy and Amy, will pick a winner with the random generator, like they do with all of our great giveaways! And, don't forget to head on over to Kristen's Etsy shop to check out her other beautiful designs as well!! **This giveaway ends on May 16th**




Sallie is an off-again, on-again homeschooling mom to her 4 children, ranging from elementary to high school. In her column "The Square Peg", she discusses the challenges of homeschooling a child with disabilities and offers insight to those who sometimes feel all alone in a round hole world.

How to tell WHY Your Child is Struggling (Part 1 of 4)


(This is the first of a 4 Part Series)

Many educators who follow brain research believe that there are four "Learning Gates" that need to be properly functioning for a child to have an easy time learning.

The Four "Learning Gates" are:


  • Visual processing
  • Visual/motor processing (writing)
  • Auditory processing
  • Focus/attention processing
This article will review information regarding the first "learning gate" -


VISUAL PROCESSING

Before you begin evaluating your child, you should know that once the process is complete you may be faced with a fundamental choice: compensation or correction. Many educational experts debate whether it is more beneficial to help a struggling learner compensate for the learning processes that are difficult, or if time and effort should be spent in the pursuit of a correction of the processing problem.

An example of compensation would be for a child to use a keyboard at a very young age to write papers when he or she struggles with handwriting. A correction would be to do a handwriting exercise that eliminates the reversed letters, for instance, and helps the child write more neatly. Another common compensation is to reduce the spelling list required at a grade level for a child who is struggling with spelling. A correction would be to train the child's photographic memory so that the task of spelling is easier.

Many times this does not need to be a debate. One can easily pursue both compensation and correction simultaneously. Compensation makes the learning task easier while the correction reduces the stress in the child's learning system so that learning can flow. This is called "opening up the child's learning gate."

Learning Gate #1: Visual Processing

A child struggling with visual processing issues will display some of these characteristics:

  • Reading reversals ("was" for "saw", "on" for "no", "big" for "dig", etc.) after initial introduction of the words
  • Skipping of small words when reading
  • Needing to use finger to track after age 7
  • Oral reading that is smooth at the beginning of the page, but becomes more labored the longer a child reads
  • Experiencing eye fatigue shortly after reading begins (watery eyes, rubbing eyes, etc.) This particular characteristic is also symptomatic of eye control problems - see article on "Vision Therapy" in HOTM's February 2008 issue
  • Yawning shortly after reading begins
  • Continuing to struggle even after being prescribed eye glasses (addressed in "Vision Therapy" article - February 2008 issue)
The following informal evaluations can be done at home to help a parent determine of a child is experiencing a blocked learning gate. Be sure, as well, to have your child's vision acuity checked by an optometrist or ophthalmologist to make sure that this is not the cause of the child's reading problem.

Eye tracking: With the child standing three feet in front of you, take an interesting object and slowly move it in a left-to-right manner in front of the child's eyes. Ask the child to keep his eyes on the target. Do this for about four swings of the target. Watch to see if the child's eyes skip any spot, or if they begin to water. Then slowly move the target in a horizontal figure-eight manner within the child's shoulder width, making sure that the target is not too close to the child's face. See if he can look in those various directions without skipping or his eyes looking stressed in any way. Make a note of your findings. There are specific exercises that can be done to strengthen a child's eye teaming abilities to reduce the stress in the visual learning system.

Cross crawl: Many times, younger children have difficulty reading because they aren't efficiently crossing the midline of their body. This is the process that normally occurs when a baby is crawling. However, some children develop a "learning gate" problem in this area because they did not crawl, or they crawled but had a traumatic even (such as a fall or back-to-back ear infections) that inhibited this natural process and made it much less effective.

Try this: Stand in front of the child and demonstrate the cross crawling movement by lifting the right knee and tapping it with the left hand, then doing the same with the left knee and right hand. Do this for a minute so the child can observe you. Then ask the child to do it also. Don't correct the child at first, but let him or her figure it out while you continue to do your cross crawl movements in from of him. If the child can't do it, and becomes frustrated, then you can start him out by having him march with his legs while you touch the opposite knee with his hands. After doing this for a bit, remove your hands from the child's hands and let him do this himself.

Make a note of your findings. If you confirm that your child has midline issues, there are specific things that you can do to address this problem.

Reading: It is believed that there are four components to reading successfully:
  • Eye tracking ability
  • Sight word memorization
  • Phonics (letter sounds and word decoding ability)
  • Reading comprehension
We can observe a child's oral reading to help us determine if eye tracking ability is contributing to the child's reading difficulties. If the child can read, have him read a passage, and carefully watch his eyes to see if he reads to the end of the line, and then starts the new line, but quickly darts back with his eyes to the last line to make sure that he is in the right spot. We all do this once in a while. Watch to see if the child does this frequently. This takes much more effort to read when this saccadic eye movement is occurring.

Also observe if the child begins reading the word "dig" by forming a "b" with his mouth first. Any time a child reverses a letter or word, six months after being taught to read, that is a sign of stress in the child's visual processing system. Make a note of your findings. There are specific things that can be done to make this process easier for your child.

Colored overlays: At times, a child will experience a mild problem reading black letters on a very white sheet of paper. It seems, to the child, that the white background of the paper is glowing and bright and distracting, making it difficult to see the black letters that compose the text.

One of the ways that you can informally determine if this is an issue is to obtain some plastic colored reading overlays (available at http://www.diannecraft.org/.)

Have the child read a paragraph or a few lines. Then place a blue colored transparency over the next paragraph and have him read. Then place a green overlay over the next paragraph when the child is reading orally. Listen for subtle changes in fluency. Ask him what he experienced while reading with the various colors. Many times the child will say that a particular transparency acted as a magnifying glass, making the letters bigger, and easier to see. There are other colors that you could try, but after working with children in this manner for 25 years, Dianne Craft says that blue and green seem to be the colors that help most often.

If the child does markedly better with one of the colored overlays, continue to use it to reduce the visual stress that he is experiencing. However, it will only act as a temporary aid until you correct the underlying problem, which is lack of eye convergence. The eyes can be trained to work together as a team while reading by doing various home exercises, or by working with a vision therapist using both home and office exercises.

In conclusion, remember that many (most) learning problems appear to be something that they are not, or appear to be caused by something that "seems" obvious, but really isn't. Many (most) learning problems, are caused by situations that your child will usually not be able to describe to you, because he has no frame of reference other than his own, which may be skewed. It is very important that we take the time to utilize simple evaluations like those listed above. By doing so, we may be able to uncover a hidden skill deficiency that - when corrected - will make all the difference in the world to your young learner.

Also, don't forget to pray and ask God for much wisdom as you set out to discover what, if anything, is standing in the way of your child's academic success. He is able and willing to walk beside you as you equip your students to become all that He created them to be!

(Remember to look for the 3 upcoming articles in this series addressing the 4 "Learning Gates!")

RESOURCES FOR CORRECTING VISION ACUITY/PROCESSING PROBLEMS

  • Prescription eyeglasses
  • Vision therapy from a developmental optometrist
  • Brain integration therapy. (This program can be conducted at home.) For more information on this and other "Learning Gate" issues, visit" http://diannecraft.org/.

**(Compiled from an article by Dianne Craft - HSLDA Special Needs Coordinator)**



Darnelle is a wife and a mother to 5 children: 4 home schoolers who are currently in 3rd, 7th, 9th, and 11th grades and one who has graduated from home school and is a college sophomore. All 5 children have been home schooled from preschool. She has many years of teaching experience in public, private, parochial, and special schools, but her favorite . . . is home school! Her certification is in the areas of special education and remediation. In her column, "Fill in the Blanks", Darnelle aims to assist parents in finding and then correcting the trouble spots that often cause academic problems and struggles. Children (and their parents) who are freed from the heavy burden of academic struggles can begin to love learning again - just like God intended! Visit her blog, All Things Work Together.

Rigor, Relevance, and Relationships


In our local newspaper recently, guest columnist Dave Quall wrote:
“For the past decade the mantra of the best and brightest school reformers has been "rigor, relevance, and relationships." These three Rs are the pillars of successful schools and rising student achievement across all demographic fault lines -- income, race and culture.”
He further goes on to explain "rigor, relevance, and relationships." I would like to expand on these ideas a bit further, and show how homeschooling through high school gives you the advantage in these areas.

Quall writes that "Rigor refers to the need for students to reach high levels of competence in academic subjects, including a second language." He says that we need to keep academics in mind, but not let it become a total focus. I agree, to a point. Education is fundamentally about learning, after all. Homeschoolers have the advantage, because they can ensure that their students truly get a quality education and won't get lost in the system. With the great student-teacher ratio, the important elements of education will be learned. In homeschool, students don’t get passed along to the next grade level just to stay with their age-mates. Instead they can truly learn each topic along the way. Academic rigor really is important for all students, and when you are homeschooling you can truly ensure that subjects are understood. For more help choosing rigorous high school classes for homeschoolers, see my earlier Heart of the Matter article.

"Relevance is making learning meaningful. To truly engage students, good teachers connect what kids learn to what they already know from their own cultures and life experiences." Now really, how can a public or private school teacher expect to do that in a classroom with 25-30 students? In many cases, they simply can’t know what is going on in a child's life. That's why homeschoolers have the advantage. We really KNOW our child. We can make sure that we are always teaching at their level all the time, in every subject. We can match the student's learning style with our own teaching style. We can use what works or quickly change to other curriculum, because we have complete authority over all aspects of instruction. Without any bureaucracy, we have the optimum ability to make changes to suit the needs of our students.

"Relationships refer to every kid's need for mentoring and encouragement by adults, and safe and healthy friendships with their peers." This is my favorite comment that Dave Quall makes. You see, my kids were in public school for years. During our last year in public school, their teacher-mentor was “educating” my son that lying, stealing, or assaulting others is "OK when necessary" (this during a unit study on The Oregon Trail.) During public school, socialization with peers included one student who threw a metal pipe at my son's head and shared explicit materials with his first grade classmates. Homeschoolers have the advantage in relationships and socialization. We can make sure that adults and others will model our moral code and value system. We can ensure that friendships truly are healthy and safe. We can dramatically reduce the negative peer pressure, teasing, tormenting, and chronic negative feedback from peers that lead to low self-esteem.

I agree that schools should keep rigor, relevance and relationships in balance. I also believe that homeschooling is the best way to achieve that balance. Homeschooling through high school will give your children the education, confidence, and social skills they need to thrive in the adult world.




Lee Binz is a veteran homeschooling mom of two and the owner of The HomeScholar, "Helping parents homeschool through high school". You can sign up for her free email newsletter The HomeScholar Record and get your daily dose of wisdom via e-mail from The HomeScholar Blog.

Where the Lord Guides, He Provides



Lately, the Lord has really been nudging me, reminding me, and pricking my soul. There's a lesson to learn, one that I have to learn over and over again.

Where the Lord guides, He provides.

Sometimes God gives us a list of specific instructions. Sometimes He just points us in a specific direction, destination unknown. In I Kings, chapter 17, God tells Elijah to turn eastward and head for a brook near Jordan. There, the Lord would nourish him with water from the brook and food, which would be brought by the ravens. Elijah obeyed, and the Lord followed through on His word.

My Heavenly Father has been whispering in my ear, "Depend on me. I will provide."

Often, as homeschoolers, we wonder how we're going to do it. Maybe you feel ill-equipped. Maybe you feel overwhelmed. Maybe you're at a point of transition, and you just don't know what comes next. Maybe the Lord has recently called you to bring your children home, and you have more questions than answers.

Sometimes God has to remind me, "It's not always about you."

property of mandymom.comGod dried up the brook which had nourished Elijah, then directed him to Zarephath. He told him there would be a widow who would sustain him there. He found the widow at the gate of the city where she was collecting sticks. She was preparing her final meal, as she was poor and had only enough food for only one meal for her family.

God used Elijah's previous experience at the brook to teach this widow a lesson. She followed Elijah's instruction, and she did not go hungry.

Our pastor made the point one day that God will dry up our brook, but he'll provide for us somewhere else. Sometimes he asks for us to make a change. Sometimes that change is to help someone else. Sometimes he dries up our brook, dries up our comfort zone, and prompts us to more forward. It's a reminder that we aren't suppose to depend on the things He has given us, but we are to depend on Him!

God doesn't always tell us the why, when, and how. In fact, He rarely does, but He always gives us direction, even if it's only a step at a time. When we put our faith and trust in Him, He will be glorified, and we will be able to nourish our families as God intended.

There will be people along the way who will ridicule what we're doing. They'll let us know we're sorely incapable. The truth is, alone, we are incapable, but we have the Lord, and with him, nothing is impossible.

It is so important to meet with God to allow him to speak to us (because, if you're like me, there are times when you do most of the chattering). We must make time for God, for he is the foundation on which our family is built.

There are so many choices out there when it comes to schooling, and even when it comes to homeschooling. That is why it is paramount that we depend on Him for direction and guidance. Maybe we want Him to lay out the whole lesson plan for life, but we need to be content with the daily direction He has.

One step at a time!




Mandy is a former homeschooling student who has set out to homeschool her three young munchkins in an unschooling meets discipleship method. In her column "Delightfully Discipled", she gives a glimpse into the curious minds of her children as they follow their natural instincts to explore the heights and depths of knowledge and and are led though Godly discipleship. She blogs at MandyMom.com and Noggin News.

Power in the Blood



A few days ago I was hospitalized to receive a blood transfusion. What a difference! I received two units of iron rich blood and feel 20 years younger (a fountain of youth!)

Last week, I was so anemic I couldn’t walk up the stairs. Well, I could kind of – I could take three steps, then rest a few minutes then try another few. By the time I got to the top, I would have to lie down for 15 minutes to catch my breath (a major hindrance for the mother of active boys.)

This morning, I bounded up the stairs, changed the sheets on all the beds, and picked up toys and dirty clothes without stopping once! I never though I’d be praising God for dirty clothes on the floor. I pray I never take my health for granted again.

Thank you blood donors! If it weren’t for someone’s selfless giving I would still be very weak. Every 3 seconds, someone in America needs blood. Approximately 40,000 units are used each day in the U.S.

Anemia Can be Very Serious

For those of you interested, anemia is the result of inadequate numbers of red blood cells circulating in the body — cells that are responsible for keeping the body’s tissues rich with oxygen. It’s the most common disorder of the blood (20 percent of women of childbearing age are low in iron). I’m sure many reading this have dealt with it. I have been anemic in every pregnancy (evidenced by ice cravings or pica).

My current anemia is from heart medication and menorrhagia. Blood transfusions are used to treat anemia as a last resort. Anemia can be very serious for heart patients. It causes the heart to work harder, causing severe problems for people with heart disease.

For women, the normal hemoglobin range is 12.3 to 15.3 and average hematocrit is 35% to 47%. My levels were 8 and 26%. (When I dropped from 9 to 8, walking across a room became very difficult). Hemoglobin below 6 for heart patients is deadly.

The Bible Calls Blood Life

The Bible calls blood life. (Gen. 9:4; Lev. 17:11, 14; 19:16; Deut. 12:23; Matt. 27:4, 24) Blood is not only that which is essential to life, but is also the seat of life’s power. It is usually connected with God, our life-giver.

Blood is central to the theology of the Bible. As the institution of sacrificial atonement, it is applied to the altar as a sin offering. The Passover celebration remembers the blood on the doorposts of Hebrew houses in Egypt (Exod. 12:7). The New Testament focuses on the shed blood of Jesus and its atoning character.

Imperfect Blood Is Only a Temporary Solution

The doctors tell me as I battle this anemia, I may need future blood transfusions. I am still anemic and need to continue to receive iron infusions once a week. The blood units I received are only a temporary solution.

In the same way, the animal sacrifices in the Bible covered the sins of the Hebrews temporarily as shadow of things to come (Heb 9:2–5). The blood covered sin but never washed it away. While the animal sacrifices brought about ceremonial cleansing for the body (Heb 9: 13) they could never reach into the heart. But the blood of Christ, shed once and for all, purges the conscience and gives the believer an unchanging and perfect standing before God.

Christ’s sacrifice does not need to be repeated. He offered himself up once and for all in order to clear the way to the Holy of Holies.

The Veil Was Torn

The most significant act dealing with blood in the Bible was on the Day of Atonement or Yom Kippur. The high priest entered the inner room of the tabernacle, the most holy place, carrying the blood of an atoning sacrifice. This veil was used to separate Hakodesh (the holy place) from the Kodesh Hakodashim (Holy of Holies) - the most sacred part of the entire Temple.

The veil between the two parts of the tabernacle was a symbol of the separation between man and God. In the temple, a partition wall separated these two places. In it were two folding doors, which were supposed to have been always open, the entrance being concealed by the veil which the high priest lifted when he entered into the sanctuary on the day of Atonement.

In Bible times a blood covenant was an agreement between two contracting parties, originally sealed with blood. The Hebrew word berith is a covenant. Berith is derived from a root which means “to cut,” a covenant is a “cutting.” Circumcision was a sign of the covenant God made with Abraham. Circumcision — cutting the foreskin — was a continual reminder that God had cut a covenant with Abraham and his descendants. The blood covenant included the cutting of a sacrificial animal into two parts, between which the contracting parties passed, thereby showing that they were bound to each other.

When Christ died, the veil was torn from top to bottom. (Matt. 27:51; Mark 15:38; Luke 23:45). The torn veil is a symbol of God’s everlasting covenant with us – we can now enter the Holy of Holies through Christ!

"And Jesus cried out again with a loud voice, and yielded up His spirit. And behold, the veil of the Temple was torn in two from top to bottom…” (Matthew
27:50-51a)

"Therefore, brothers, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, His body, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our
hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience" (Heb 10:19-24).

I will surely recall my physical transformation this week each time I partake of the Passover cup symbolizing the blood of Christ.

Thank you Father!



Robin has been homeschooling for 20 years. She and her husband Ronnie are blessed with a “yours, mine, and ours” blended family of eleven children (ages 6 to 34) and thirteen grandchildren (ages 1 to 12). She is actively teaching the two youngest children still at home. Robin is also an author and business owner. Please visit her at Heart of Wisdom.

Common Misuses of Analogy in Homeschool Criticism



When reading essays and opinions criticizing homeschooling, it does not take very long to be confronted by a number of analogies. Judicious use of analogy can be an effective means of communication. It makes difficult concepts easier to understand, makes writing more interesting and tends to be more persuasive than a simple statement of facts. In the case of the myriad homeschooling analogies, however, they generally serve to better demonstrate the author's misconceptions about education than any specific ideas about the failings of homeschooling.

Jack Lessenberry of Michigan Radio, for example, appeals to a rather common analogy between doctors and teachers in his essay on homeschooling:
If I announced I was going to “home doctor” my family and take my son’s appendix out on the kitchen table, the cops would be there pretty fast. Educational malpractice should be illegal as well. Jack Lessenberry's Essays and Interviews
Other than the fact that it presumably takes place at the kitchen table, there really is no similarity between "home doctoring" and "home schooling." But since this analogy is fairly common, and the same mistakes are made in most of the analogies involving homeschooling, let's take a closer look at the problems with this analogy.

Education is to medicine as philosophy is to science.

Education involves the development of the mind and the character. It is not something which is quantifiable or measurable. Asking for a description of an educated person is, by its very nature, the beginning of a philosophical discussion. The appendix, on the other hand, can be described in specific terms along with the common diseases associated with it. Its size, shape, color and position in the body are documented and you can even take pictures of it. While there are certainly close relationships between the mind and the body, it must also be appreciated that one is a philosophical concept while the other is physical. The reach for an analogy is perhaps natural since the concrete is easier to understand than the abstract, but when the concept itself exists only in the abstract, concrete representations cannot do it justice.

The mind is to the appendix as a thought is to an organ.

If a doctor makes a mistake, it cannot be so easily undone. When my husband had his appendectomy as a child, for example, the doctor nicked his bowel. Small mistake, but it caused a great deal of scarring. Eventually, several inches of his intestine had to be removed and the pyloric valve (the passage between the large and small intestines) had to be surgically reconstructed. Compare this to the proverbial "gaps" in knowledge it is feared homeschooling creates in children. We know that colleges are having to restructure their teaching to adapt to the "gaps" in knowledge public high schools are producing, but what does this demonstrate? These gaps can be filled in at a later date as needed.

The mind is not an organ like the appendix in Jack's analogy. It needs "nourishment" but this idea of nourishment itself is an analogy. Unlike the body, it does not need specific vitamins, minerals, etc. found in a varied diet but instead needs stimulation. This stimulation can take on a variety of forms, unique to each individual. It takes more than a simple "gap" to actually damage the mind. Failing to adequately cover analytical geometry in high school does not harm a person any more than the work required to make up the knowledge in college assuming college is even the goal.

Homeschooling is to abuse as medicine is to malpractice.

"Educational malpractice", as Jack calls it, is meant to conjure up images of quack doctors performing surgeries they are unqualified to perform with potentially fatal consequences. But what is malpractice?

mal·prac·tice (ml-prkts)n.


1. Improper or negligent treatment of a patient, as by a physician, resulting in injury, damage, or loss.


Because education involves the development of the mind and the character, educational malpractice would have to result in injury to the mind or character. We are not talking about failing to read The Catcher in the Rye with the rest of the juniors in the state, nor even lacking laboratory science upon graduation. We are talking about abuse. Real abuse, not allegorical abuse conjured up by those who cannot imagine education occurring outside the confines of a brick building. It is extreme, causes lasting harm to the victims, and has nothing to do with homeschooling. Certainly there are those who abuse their children while claiming to be homeschooling. But then there are those who abuse other people's children while claiming to be babysitters. "Homeschooling" has no more to do with abuse than "babysitting."

As flawed as they typically are, these analogies can be difficult to refute because they do not rely on facts but in perceived relationships. Still, those used to present homeschooling as education at the hands of unqualified "amateurs" tend to falter on the same points. Consider Greg Laden's comparison to getting a pilot's license, or the technical expertise of home-repair considered by head custodian Dave Arnold. They seek to illustrate their objections to homeschooling, yet succeed only in illustrating their own misconceptions about the nature of education and its delicate relationship to the art of teaching. It reminds me of another analogy, adapted slightly:

An educrat's rhetoric is like a light breeze in the forest. Weak trees bow before it, yet the strong hold their position.



Dana is a fourth year homeschooling mom to three girls and a boy. In her column, "In the News," she will be taking a look at homeschoolers who have affected the news and news that affects homeschoolers. Visit her blog, Principled Discovery.

The Autism Spectrum

Wondering if your child might be on the spectrum? The first thing people ask me when I tell them my son has Asperger’s Syndrome, a form of Autism, is how did I know that Xander had a problem? To be perfectly honest, I wasn't sure he did. He seemed like a perfectly normal, albeit quirky, child. Sure, he was super hyper, but he is a boy, and so were his brothers to a degree. The tell-tale 'signs' were all there, but they could easily be mistaken for many other issues found in normal childhood development. Some of these include:

1. Hyper-focusing on Buzz Lightyear, and more recently oceanography and marine biology.

What we thought: this all seemed very normal. There are many kids at this age who still have not given up their security blankets, have imaginary friends or a particular show or subject that they can't get enough of.

Why it was a problem: Xander could not let go of these subjects. It was as if he was obsessed. Loss of important items or books caused major hysteria and meltdowns. We have since learned how to use these things to our advantage. For instance, if Xander takes a toy from his brother, we can ask him what he thinks Buzz would do in that situation. Since Buzz is his hero, he wants to do good things too, so he gives the toy back to his brother. We have also learned that by providing Xander with reading materials on sharks and lighthouses and other aquatic creatures he is more apt to calmly sit in his beanbag and read. He does not forget a thing about it because it's what he obsesses on.

2. Developmentally behind in fine and gross motor skills.

What we thought: We thought our son was just clumsy, and perhaps lazy a time or two. There isn't a wall in any house we've lived in that hasn't been met by my dear son. At any point in time there is a collage of varying colored bruises from head to toe. My personal thought? ALL BOY.

Why it was a problem: We found out that Asperger's children are behind on their fine and gross motor skills. Xander learned how to crawl, walk, and run late. He has major issues with sharing his food, with his apparently also very hungry, shirt because he cannot manage utensils very well. He also still appears to 'scribble' draw, though his imagination will tell you it is something altogether quite wonderful.

3. Speech Issues

What we thought: When Xander was 18 months old, there was a period of time that he spoke wonderfully! We understood all of it! Then it completely went away. We often joked that he realized we could understand him and didn't like it, so he quit. We chalked up his current speech issues to being 4 because there are many children his age that I can't understand at all.

Why it was a problem: After speaking with the child psychologist, we learned that gaining a developmental skill such as walking, talking, etc., and then suddenly losing it was a sign of Autism. I also learned a new term, echolalia, which is the act of repeating certain sounds or phrases repeatedly. Usually when someone says the word 'Autism' the common vision that comes to mind is a child rocking back and forth repeating the same phrase over and over again. Not all types of echolalia are like this. For Xander it was not so obvious.

Me: Do you understand me?
Xander: Understand me?

I always took this to mean yes, when in fact, he was trying to process what I'd asked him.
OR
Me: It's time to clean your room.
Xander: Clean my room. CLEAN my ROOM? CLEAN MY ROOOOOM??!! I always thought he was just being a brat and throwing a tantrum, when he was actually showing us 'stress echolalia,' which occurs when what is said or asked is too overwhelming for the child to process. We alleviated this problem by making the request smaller such as, "Xander, would you put all of the Legos into the blue bucket?" and these requests continue until the room is cleaned. No arguments.

4. Social Anxiety

What we thought: Xander gets VERY wild when we go out into public in an unstructured environment (daycare, a gym, baseball practice, or grocery store). He starts, what we thought, showing off and getting super hyper. We thought this was a matter of him misbehaving. He was disciplined excessively, considering he did not understand.

Why it was a problem: Asperger's kids are all about routine, routine, routine. If anything deviates from this -- a quick stop at the post office, when he would normally be playing outside, later naptime due to the kids getting out of school early, etcetera -- causes major overstimulation, anxiety, fear, and stress. We learned that he has to be prepared to go places, to change routines, etc. Spring break was a HUGE ordeal for Xander because he was used to his brothers being at school and on the third day they were home he was a mess.

Some other things that are characteristic of Xander's Asperger's are noises he makes when he's stressed out (I call it the sprinkler noise, because that's what it sounds like to me). When he gets super wound up his body seems to pulse with energy. He also sees the world in black and white only -- it's either right or wrong, there are no gray areas. In other words, he'll call it like he sees it, whether it's hurtful, mean, inappropriate, etc. He isn't aware of society's social rules. We will have to teach him by memorization.

I encourage any of you that have questions about whether or not your child has Autism to contact your pediatrician and have your child tested. Remember, we all have a choice about what we accept for our children. We are their number one advocates and the only ones who have the ability to step forward and say “no” on their behalf.


"By wisdom a house is built and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures."
Proverbs 24:3- 4



Angela DeRossett is military wife, homeschooling mother, and an advocate for autism research. Angela can be found blogging at Homeschooling the Chaotic Family and Memoirs of a Chaotic Mommy.

Slowing Down The Pace



It's hard to believe it is already May. Being a former teacher and librarian, May always meant the summing up of the formal academic year in a school setting. I've personally chosen to wind down our preschool homeschooling on purpose right now to evaluate what we've accomplished, what worked and what didn't, and to give us both a break. Does that mean the learning stops? Absolutely not. Our learning from here until the end of summer will be spontaneous and simplistic. No more units and focusing on planned ideas for the next three months. I'm looking forward to sunny days, beautiful mornings spent fingerpainting on the patio, frolicking in a wading pool, and watering the flowers in the backyard as the sun goes down in the evening. My son has developed a fascination with "big trucks" and digging in the dirt, so I'm sure those activities will also be high on our list of things to do.

We've certainly experienced some shining moments this year as well as struggles. I feel I may have started things out a bit too structured in the begining. However, the awesome accomplishments I've had the joy of watching my son experience have truly made this journey one that I am so grateful we explored. To see my son go from a busy little two year old to a determined and more focused three year old with blossoming language skills and an interest in drawing has been amazing to watch.

As I'm reflecting on our year, I'd love to hear how your preschool homeschooling experience is going. What have you accomplished so far? What were the highs and lows? Would you change anything? Will you be taking a summer break from homeschooling? Will homeschooling continue as usual?



Mandy is a preschool homeschooling mom to her two year old son. In her column "Knee High Homeschoolers," she writes about the joys of homeschooling a preschooler and shares helpful links and practical information gained from experience. Visit her blog, Inching Along.

Because Life Happens: Happy Mother's Day



Happy Mother’s Day!

This month we celebrate Mother’s Day . . . are you ready?

Proverbs 31:28, “Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.”

When I think about celebrating Mother's Day this month, I am reminded of a past Mother's Day that will live on in infamy in my mind. Not because it was an awesome Mother’s Day, but because it was a horrible Mother’s Day. Let me set the stage for you: I woke up that morning and wandered out into the den where my family—I was certain—was waiting to shower me with gifts and sing my praises. Instead, I found no cards, no flowers, and everyone seemed too preoccupied with getting ready for church to even remember to say something to me. I felt like the character in Sixteen Candles; only instead of forgetting my birthday—they had forgotten Mother’s Day.

We went to church with me silently stewing. I was not prepared for the gauntlet of friends I had to run by at church who oh-so-kindly shared with me what their families had done for them that morning. “What did your family do for you?” they innocently asked. I just shook my head and took my seat in the sanctuary. I was embarrassed that my family didn’t care enough to remember my special day. I was angry that I had been overlooked by the very people who professed to love me most. I grumbled to God throughout much of the service and made vows that I would absolutely not make my husband’s Father’s Day special. So there.

Once we got home, I got busy trying to get an ordinary lunch ready for the family—all the while wondering where my special Mother’s Day lunch was. Finally, I snapped. I yelled and screamed about how horrible my day had been. I blamed my husband for not taking the lead. And then I went to my room and cried.

God met with me there in that room. He got my attention by showing me how out of whack my attitude had been. If He had called me to motherhood — with all the service and self-sacrifice that entailed — then why did I feel I deserved a day just for me? Why did I let the retailers and the culture build up my expectations to a place of total unreality? Why didn’t I instead turn to Jesus’ humble servant’s heart and say, “This is not about me. Even today, this is still about You.” If He is truly my model, then why did I let go of that and turn the focus on myself just because of a date on the calendar?

In the end, my sheepish husband and children snuck off to WalMart to get me some hanging baskets I had been wanting, and they ordered my favorite Chinese takeout for dinner that night. In trying to salvage the day, I saw their love for me displayed. I also faced the reality of the fact that at that point in our lives, a lavish gift and expensive restaurant meal just wasn’t financially possible. My expectations had not met with my reality, and I played the victim to the hilt. Shame on me. I resolved that in the future, I needed to lay all my expectations down and wait on God to surprise me, as His surprises are so much better.

Later that night I was talking with a friend and she asked how my Mother’s Day had been. I told her it had not been a good day. She replied, “Did it involve locking yourself in the bathroom, running a bath, and then crying your eyes out? Because that’s how my Mother’s Day went.” In that instant, I realized I was not alone. From that conversation, my friends and I resolved that perhaps we should not place so many expectations on our poor families. Perhaps we should instead make our own Mother’s Day plans, and let our husbands off the hook. So that is just what we did.

And so, this year my friends and I are getting a plan together for how we are going to spend our Mother’s Day. We have chosen a great chick flick to sneak off to in the afternoon, then on to a nice dinner and perhaps a latte afterwards. Our husbands are breathing a collective sigh of relief and our children are learning that sometimes mommy needs a little R&R just like everybody else. But then again, mommy doesn’t expect it or act like a diva about it. I will always remember the Mother’s Day I got an attitude adjustment and will try to keep this day in perspective in the years to come. In the end, that has made Mother’s Day at our house much happier. I hope your Mother's Day is happy and that, in some small way, you are loved, appreciated, and remembered.




Marybeth is homeschooling mom to six children ranging in age from teen to toddler, as well as a speaker for Proverbs 31 Ministries. In her column “Because Life Happens”, she addresses things like burnout, dealing with interruptions, and handling homeschooling from a very practical perspective. Be sure to visit her blog, Cheaper by the Half Dozen.

When Winning 'Does Not Compute'



When Winning 'Does Not Compute'





To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best.
~ William M. Thackeray


It is many a young boy's dream to play with robots and build things. It has been one of my son's dreams since he was five years old. The very first time I heard about robotics from a homeschool list I was on, he started begging me to get involved with it. At first he was too young, then we had trouble finding a group, then we moved and it wasn't available in our new area. There was always some extra excuse, but mostly the reason we hesitated to participate was because it just wasn't affordable for us on one income. Robotics kits are not cheap.

I think God knew Kaden needed a helping hand if he was ever going to get involved with robotics. This year He brought us together with a sweet family in our local co-op that had participated in these sort of events before, and lucky for us, they were looking for another team member for 2008. They even offered to pay the entry fees and already had the supplies the team needed. I just couldn't say no. Kaden was beside himself with glee. Finally, his dream come true! He was going to be a part of a robotics team!

The boys created a small team of two and began to practice together twice a week, an hour or two each time. We made it a part of our weekly routine to be sure they had enough time to work on the 'bots.' Kaden didn't even use the bot that he owns because his buddy already had two bots out of the box and had begun building them. This would be a learning experience for him as his first year in robotics. He hadn't been previously trained, even though he did have an NXT Lego kit that his grandparents got him a year before over the holidays. We were excited that he was going to get to finally enjoy robotics and had no expectations of him winning anything.



Winning in the regional competition was the icing on the cake - and a shock to both us and Kaden's friend's parents. Competition was long and hard. The boys competed in two rounds and ended up with a winning score. They won the regional qualifying championships and we had only two weeks to prepare for a trip to the World Championship games in Michigan. After a bit of fundraising and planning, we set out for Detroit. Kaden's teammate flew and we drove. It would have been easier to fly, but ticket prices and the threat of layovers scared us away. With one win under our belt we wondered if we could pull off another win in Michigan.

At 7:30 AM Saturday morning we signed in at the college so the boys could practice. It was a grueling day for Kaden (after only 3 hours of sleep and 18+ hours in the car the day/night before). We got to see a lot of great robots and there were 36 teams competing against our team in the Junior level. There were many different attractions to the day: an exhibition displaying creative autonomous robots designed for many different purposes, a robot fashion show, RoboSumo (a competition with robots fighting to push other robots out of a ring), awards for many different categories (even for best team photo!), etc. We even got to listen to a highschool band play. It was a busy day!



The next best thing to winning is losing! At least you've been in the race.
~ Nellie Hershey Tullis

Our scores had been pretty high in regionals, so we were disappointed to come in 13th overall in the World Competition. 13th place isn't so bad when you consider that those were the best teams in the world (3 different countries competed in the Junior division: America, Canada, and South Korea). Although the BIG trophy didn't come home with us, we sure gained a lot of knowledge and experience. We scored an "E" for effort in my book, and not only did Kaden learn a lot about robots, Lego Mindstorm kits, programming, and competing in Robofest, he also got to drive through a total of nine states and have a few other adventures along the way.



Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely.
~ Auguste Rodin

Who knows if there will be a next time for Robofest or not. Right now we are just savoring the memories. It isn't every day that you get to claim you are the regional Robofest champion. And it isn't every day that you get to travel over 3,000 miles across the USA. We'll worry about other robot ventures later. We were all just thankful we got to participate! Winning isn't the 'heart of the matter' anyway . . . enjoying the journey and being a champion in all you set out to do along the way is much more important.




Sprittibee (Heather) has been homeschooling for 6 years and has one crazy husband, 2 crazy kids (ages 9 and 11) and 2 crazy cats. When she isn't making Tex-Mex, learning web design, teaching the kids, or rubbing her face on the cat's belly... she loves to blog. In her column "Heartstrings for Homeschoolers," she reminds us to stop and smell the proverbial flowers on this journey we call homeschooling. Not every day will be a great one. She admonishes us to learn to focus on the beauty of the moments God has blessed us with - for better or for worse... because our hearts are shaped by the memories we are making.

How to Shop the Drugstores



If you are anything like me, you avoided CVS and Walgreens like the plague because some of their prices were so much higher than at WalMart or the grocery stores. You were being frugal after all, and watching your prices. (Go you, by the way!)

I am going to share a few secrets with you today and some tips that may help you change your mind. This has taken me hours of extensive research and time, but I've had a lot of success with this. Let's start with Walgreens:

Each week, either look online or buy a Sunday paper with the ads in them. Walgreens has many deals each month that are "Free after rebate" that you will want to watch for. They also go on sale cheaper sometime during the month, so you will want to note that as well. For example, Aquafresh toothpaste was on sale for $2 a tube this past week. You use a $2/1 coupon and bam! it's free. Neat, huh? Well, here's the best part: you send off that receipt for Aquafresh and get your $2 back as a rebate! Even better, if you have Walgreens put their rebates on a gift card, they will add 10% more. So, your toothpaste "made" you a net profit of $2.20. Not too shabby, I'd say!

Walgreens also has what are called "Register Rewards," where you get a coupon back for money off your next visit. For example, they had "buy 4 Aveeno products (any) and get $10 in Register Rewards." Well, simple math tells you that you buy the cheapest products and "make" money. This is what I did. I bought 4 hand lotions that were $2.39 each (on sale). I had 4 $1/1 coupons, which made that $5.56. I got back $10, netting a profit of $4.44! And a really good deal, too, since I use a lot of hand lotion.

The main idea here is to buy things that are "Free after Rebates" and when you get your gift card, keep using that for other things that you need and "roll over the rebates."

The only thing that I've found with Walgreens is that you are not able to reuse the Register Rewards to make more. I couldn't take the $10 Register Rewards to buy more Aveeno. They are programmed to show what you bought to get the Register Rewards for that reason. You also have to be aware that they do expire. Usually, I have found that you have 2 weeks to use them. The order of the coupons matters, too. If you use a Walgreen's coupon and a manufacturer's coupon for the same item (totally legal), first hand them all your Walgreen's coupons, then the manufacturer's coupons, then any Register Rewards. If you have a total of 17 coupons, you will need to have a total of 17 items. I have thrown in pocket packs of Kleenex or penny candy items to make that up. For example, last time I went, I bought:

  • 2 gallons of milk - $2.89 each
  • 1 can Pringles (earned me the title Awesome Mom of the Year) - $1.29
  • 2 boxes Celestial Seasonings tea - $2.99 (w/BOGO deal)
  • 2 Dawn dish soap - $2.98


  • Minus the coupons
  • $2.00 off Dawn (Walgreens coupons)
  • 2- $.50/1 Dawn (mfg coupon)
  • $.50 off Pringles (Walgreens coupons)
  • $.45 off Celestial Seasonings (mfg coupon)
  • $10.00 Register Reward (from Aveeno deal)

  • Grand total out of pocket = $0.23!




    At CVS, you can get some really great deals by using their "Extra Care Bucks" (to be referred to as ECB from now on). First, to take advantage of that, you will need to have an Extra Care Card. If you don't have one, they have them at the cash registers. Just fill out a quick form and include your email address and you are on your way. Why the email address, you ask? You will also get coupons for CVS in your inbox. For example, they will send you a $4 off your next $20 purchase if you sign up online with your care card number. Just go here.

    Then, take your ads and let's go shopping. No, wait! You need to have a plan. First, note what is on sale that will give you ECB back. For example, L'Oreal products have a $2 ECB back on buying one. So, you buy a lipgloss for $7.99 and get $2 ECB for your next purchase. Here's an example of a week that I had at CVS.


    Transaction #1

  • 4 Softsoap Spa Radiance Body Wash - $4.99 each
  • 2 Lady Speed Stick Deodorant - 2/$5
  • 2 Colgate Advance Toothpaste - $3.49 w/BOGO
  • 1 Reeses Candy bar


  • Minus

  • $1.00 coupon for deodorant
  • 4- $1.50 off body wash coupons
  • 2- $1.50/1 toothpaste coupons
  • $4.00 off $20 for signing up for email offers


  • Total out of pocket = $2.41
    ECB earned = $22.96


    Transaction #2

  • 2 Scrubbing Bubbles Bathroom cleaner - $5.00
  • 3 Jergens Natural Glow Lotion - $5.99 each
  • 1 Spa Radiance Body Wash - $4.99


  • Minus

  • 2- $.75/1 Scrubbing bubbles coupons
  • $1.50/1 Spa Radiance coupon
  • 2- $1.00/1 Jergens Lotion coupons
  • $22.96 ECB


  • Total out of pocket = $0.30
    ECB earned = $9.99

    Transaction #3

  • 2 Scrubbing Bubbles Bathroom cleaner - $5.00
  • 2 Windex window cleaner - $5.00
  • 1 Lip gloss-$2.99


  • Minus

  • 2- $.75/1 Scrubbing bubbles coupons
  • 2- $.40/1 Windex coupons
  • $9.99 ECB


  • Total out of pocket = $0.88
    ECB earned $5.00

    Transaction #4

  • 2 Lip gloss
  • 1 sunflower seeds (snack for friend) - due to not enough pre-tax for ECB

  • Minus

  • $5.00 ECB


  • Total out of pocket = $0.51

  • ECB earned = $5.00


  • Total amount spent = $4.10
    Total amount saved = $86.91


    The thing with ECB is that you also want to make sure that you "roll" them over as well. Your card is connected with them, so you can't give them to a friend to use unless they use your card as well. There is also always a limit on the number of "deals" that you can have. For example, the body wash had a limit of 5 per card. I could've gotten 6, but I would not have had the ECB back on the 6th one.


    This is what Jessica of Bargain Banana had to say about CVS:


    Here are a few key items in saving money at CVS.
    1. Buy a Sunday paper to get the weekly coupon inserts and CVS ad. You can also pick up the ad at the store.
    2. Clip ALL the coupons even if there are items you don't use.
    3. Set aside time to look at the ad and compare the sales to your coupons.
    4. Look for items in the ad that say "Extra Bucks Reward." These are items that will give you Extra Care Bucks (also called ECB's) in return for buying that item. Ex: Buy an Oral-B Toothbrush for $4.99 and receive $4.99 ECBs or buy any Mennen Deoderant at $1.99 and receive $1.00 ECBs.
    5. Try to buy items with your ECBs that will give you ECBs back. Some people call this "rolling" the ECBs.
    6. Use manufacturer's coupons for as many items as possible.
    7. Make a plan and a backup plan. With so many people shopping for the same items you want, the shelves may be empty so a backup plan is important.
    8. Use manufacturer's coupons first to lower your total. Next use ECBs, then cash or credit.

    **Try to spend very little out of pocket the first trip. Ex: Buy something that cost $2.99 and will give back $1.99. This will give you $1.99 to start your second trip. Keep buying items that you have coupons for and give you ECBs in return. Eventually you will spend a few ECBs each trip and walk away with more than you came in with.

    Here is a sample transaction after a few trips to CVS have been made.
    Start with $9.00 ECBs from last trip.

    1 Dove shampoo $2.99--will give back $2.00 ECB
    1 Venus Razor $9.99--will give back $6.00 ECB
    1 Colgate Toothpaste $2.99-will give back $2.99 ECB
    1 Johnson Baby shampoo $2.99--will give back $1.00 ECB

    Subtotal before coupons=$18.96

    Give coupons from the Sunday coupon insert (non CVS)
    $2.00 off Dove shampoo
    $4.00 off Venus Razor
    $1.50 off Colgate
    $2.00 Johnson Baby shampoo

    Subtotal after coupons =$9.46
    Use $9.00 ECB's
    Pay $0.46 + tax out of pocket (OOP)

    Earn $11.99 ECB's for next time.
    Keeping rolling these every time and it will get very exciting.

    In the last couple of months I have spent about $10.00 of my own money at CVS and saved over $400. My pantry is stocked with toothpaste, toothbrushes, air fresheners, shampoo, razors, etc. In the past we would wait until an item was almost gone before replacing it. This meant we usually paid close to full price. Now we are ready when items run out and we only paid pennies for each.

    There are many goldmine deals to be had at each major drugstore, if you know how to find them. Try out the ideas listed above, and see how much you can save! Let me know of any others that you find.



    Heather is a stay at home mother with 3 blessings to take everywhere with her. Teaching women to shop and save and get the most for your dollar are a vision that has been a long time in the making. She enjoys sharing her trials and triumphs at the local stores, as well as some good (and some not so good) recipes to help make those dollars stretch. Her column, "Practical Penny Pincher" is a must read for the thrifty homeschool mom. Visit her blog at Titus 2 Woman.

    Chaos to Order Book Review



    Any book with a title “Chaos to Order” has me intrigued. Malia Russell has written a little gem of a book here with 25 tools to bring “order” to our chaotic lives.

    She presents a formula on the first pages. I’ll admit I’m not much of a formula gal, but THIS made sense to me!!






    Chaos

    – Distractions

    – Decisions

    ÷ Delegation

    + Goals

    x Spiritual Disciplines

    =

    ORDER

    The chapters are broken up as the formula. In the Distraction chapter, Malia takes on such things as driving, calendars, telephone, and my personal favorite, ‘anything with a plug.’ She offers practical advice on how to take the inevitable distractions and move into a more peaceful and productive home life. Her practical approach, breaking each area down and offering simple solutions will help even the most organized out there. I walked away with SEVERAL tips!

    Another neat component to this book came at the end of each chapter. Malia offers websites, and resources that she personally recommends to help guide us from chaos to order.

    The chapter on Delegation begins with this fitting verse:

    "You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out. The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone." Exodus 18:18

    We often resist delegating, thus adding to our own chaos. Malia offers sound advice on incorporating your children into the “family order plan.” She includes ideas such as rotating “tasks.” For example the “office manager” handles getting the mail, and taking out the trash. Creativity is key for exciting young children. If you can drum up enthusiasm, order will follow!!

    The chapters that follow include setting goals, both long and short, for the family, followed by spiritual discipline. With the addition of the tools in these chapters, the family will have a “map” of where they see themselves in both the short term and down the road a way.

    The advice is practical and relevant. It’s a refreshing, easy read that will have you highlighting all the way along. I’ll be running along now, it’s time to bring some ORDER to the place!


    In addition to the book Chaos to Order, Malia has a website for homemakers. Visit her at Homemaking 911


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