Friday, August 8, 2008

August 2008 Edition


We just wrapped up our first annual Virtual Homeschool Conference and I must say it was a BLAST!! Didn't you think so? We are so excited about the future of Heart of the Matter Online! We have some big things coming up very soon and I can't wait to share it with all of you. Let's just say God answers prayers.... in a mighty way! :)

Something else that is soon to be is the new school year. We are busy getting our lesson plans done and our co-ops set up and believe me, we are anxious. I am so pumped about the new school year and so are my boys. They asked me just today, "Mom, when are we going to start school?" awe... Words every mother wants to hear! (too bad it will only last until day 10) But I'll take it while I can get it, eh?

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In this month's issue:

12 Essential Back To School Ideas For Mom
Headsprout Reading Online AND Giveaway!
Only "Actual Teachers" Should Read This!
How the Other Side Thinks
Hypocrite Proofing the Home
Battle of the Sexes
Homeschool Built On Christ
Nature Study - Relaxed and Fun
Teaching Emotions Through Conversation
How To Tell Why Your Child Is Struggling part 4
A Tour of Cheapville
Idols and Effigies
All The Validation I Need
Snippets of Time
Let the Games Begin
Public school administrator calls for homeschool exposé
Getting Out of the Way
Give Me the Simple Life
Think before you jump!

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Important Upcoming Dates:

Friday, August 8 – Yvonne’s Birthday

Friday, August 15 - Friday Meme: Favorite Curriculum or Book

Wednesday, August 20 – Robin’s Birthday

Friday, August 22 - Friday Meme: Favorite Field Trips

Saturday, August 23 – To Love, Honor, & Vacuum devotional study begins

Wednesday, August 27 – Amy S’s Birthday

Friday, August 29 - Friday Meme: Best Tips For Conquering Clutter

Sunday, September 7 – Unit Study Day



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This month's printables
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My Personal Secretary
Prayer Journal
Scrapbook/Project Design Layout

This month's cover photo is couresy of Amy Bayliss at In Pursuit of Proverbs 31

12 Essential Back-To-School Ideas For Mom

Take inventory of your supplies. This is a two part process. First, you must go through all of your materials. Throw out broken crayons, dried out ink pads, crusty paint bottles, things you’ve been saving for over a year that you “might be use one day” but have yet to use, outdated textbooks, etc. Be selective in the supplies you choose to keep. The second step is to take inventory of what you do have. Have you made any rediscoveries? If you are like most homeschoolers space is at a premium so your supplies may be packed away in various locations leading to the famous case of “out of sight, out of mind” . You can easily combat that by taking inventory of what you do have that is both usable and in good condition. I like to take a spiral notebook and create “categories” on the top of each page. You should base your categories by the way you think. I categorize by subject. For example under “ART”, I would list all of my art supplies and art related lesson plans and books; then I would proceed with my other subjects such as math, science, handwriting, Montessori etc. Since I also utilize unit studies in my home school, I list the unit study topic at the top of the page, and then list all of the materials I have to support that topic underneath. Remember to organize your personal inventory by the way you think. You may choose to inventory by child (listing the child’s name at the top and all of the materials you have for that child), grade level, vendor, or even more general headings such as consumables (paper, pens, glue, paint---things that run out), curriculum, games, or workbooks. This will give you a visual list of everything you currently own. This will also help you see the areas that you may be lacking in, as well as areas you may want to consider downsizing; this aids avoiding future overbuying. Once your list is complete you should place it in a place where you can easily access it in the future. I usually retype my supply list and place it inside my homeschool notebook (which I discuss later) for future reference. If you bring this list to your next homeschool convention, you can keep your lists current, and your purchases under control, by listing the items you purchase directly under the appropriate category. No matter where you choose to store your supplies your inventory list will serve as a visual reminder of all of your homeschooling resources.

Catalog your resources. This includes reference materials, magazines, DVD’s, CD’s, learning software, children’s literature, and living books. I suggest using an online catalog system such as Librarything.com to organize your books. By doing this I have discovered instances where I had multiple copies of books of the same book which I was then able to share with others. Librarything.com also allows you tag your books by category, where the books are stored, who they belong to, or all three! You determine your own tags. It’s a very flexible and easy to use online program that I highly recommend for all homeschoolers. You may be surprised by the number of books in your home library. Although Libarything.com is an online cataloging system, it does allow you to print out a list of your books which you can then place with your inventory list. The free membership allows you to catalog up to 100 books online. If you have a well stocked home library you may want to consider their special lifetime membership offer, currently available for $25, which allows you to catalog an unlimited amount of books. If this seems overwhelming to you, you can use Word or Excel or even lined notebook paper to create your own inventory of resources. No matter what system you choose to use, take the time to inventory your supplies. You’ll be glad you did.

Organize your space. Now that you’ve gathered all of your materials, discarded those that no longer serve you and grouped them together by category to create your inventory lists you are ready to organize your space. As your homeschool needs change year to year, so do your supplies and thus your organizational needs; Assess what worked last year and what didn’t. If you have to be creative in your storage planning consider what items you use most often and which you may need only occasionally, or less often. Store the things you use most often in your most accessible places; items you use less often can be stored higher or in less easily accessible space. If a storage area is too difficult to get to, try to avoid storing items there as you will most likely avoid using them just because of their difficulty to retrieve. When organizing your space try to think out of the box. If you don’t have fancy china to store in your dining room and you find yourself using your large dining room table for school anyway, why not store supplies in your china hutch?

Create a homeschool binder. Just as you’ve tailored your home school to your child’s learning style, your teaching style, family dynamics and values; You should tailor your homeschool planner or binders to how you think and what you need. Three ring binders give you the most flexibility over the traditional planners you may find at an office supply store or or most standard teacher lesson planners. Organizational experts such as Emilie Barnes, author of “More hours in your day”, have been recommending this for years. If you’ve never created your own planner using a 3-ring notebook now is the best time to start. Two exciting planners have recently hit the homeschooling market and will make this process relatively quick and easy for you. Two that I highly recommend are The Schoolhouse Planner ($39) and The Master Plan ($37.95). Virtually every form and planning tip you’ll ever need is included in both of these planners. Remember, by using a 3-ring binder planning system, you can also design any additional forms you may need and insert them directly into your personalized planner. I use two 3-ring binders to keep myself organized. I keep my homeschool binder at my desk as a reference, and the other notebook is my lesson planner for the upcoming school year. Depending on the number of students you have in your homeschool, you may choose to combine yours in one or divide them in two as I have. Again, customization is the key, but here are the tabs that I incorporate in my homeschool binder:

CONTACTS
Insert all of the phone lists you’ve received from your co-op, homeschool support group etc. You should also include blank form pages where you can write in other important contacts you make throughout the year. This will serve you when it comes time to plan playdates or outings in the future. Don’t forget to ask for email addresses if you prefer to communicate that way!


WEBSITES
Sure you’ve been faithfully hitting “add to favorites” on your browser but now that it’s a mile long do you even know what sources are on there? How many are inactive? What about those password protected sites and membership sites you have joined? I faithfully log my favorite websites into the binder by category and also have another sheet (available in homeschool planner, X planner and DonnaYoung.org) that I use to log the website url, my user name and password.

INVENTORY
I insert all of my inventory, book and supply lists here.

RESOURCES
I include a list of my favorite magazines and catalogs complete with customer service numbers, subscription information and customer numbers.

FIELD TRIPS
I insert all of my field trip finds in this binder along with our tried and true favorites. Then when I’m desperately trying to come up with a field trip idea, I have something to leaf through and jog my tired mom brain. Since many places offer special programs I also make sure to include contact information and program outlines (which I update each August in preparation for the upcoming school year). Don’t forget to include website addresses, contact information and hours of operation to aid in your future planning.


DIRECTIONS
I have no sense of direction so I keep a list of directions to just about everything in here: friends homes, field trip locations, etc. This saves me time looking it up each time and also has proved useful when I need to provide directions to others.


FORMS
I make extra copies of forms that I might use throughout the year and store them in page protectors in this binder. These forms include: to do lists, library book lists, field trip sign-up sheets, etc.

WISH LISTS
As an eclectic homeschooler I tend to overbuy. In my quest to be a better steward I’ve discovered the “wishlist”. It’s simply a list that I keep where I write in each product, book or curriculum that I’ve come across that I think I just NEED. Then I wait. I revisit the list each quarter and again at the end of the year before convention. Although I’ve purchased items on this list, there were many that I DID NOT PURCHASE and better yet, by recording the vendor and price I’ve been able to take advantage of true sales and discounted pricing when I’ve come across them---instead of just purchasing from the first place I saw the desired item. So whether you tend to overbuy, or are on a tight budget, consider keeping a wish list. You may also want to keep a list of the products you’ve come across that you can use with your children when they are older, or are ready for the material.

Plan your year & work your plan. Take the time to plan out your year. To do this you need a map and directions to your destination. The map is your master calendar. The destination is your scope & sequence or homeschool goals for the year, and the directions are of course your lesson plans and the activities you will use to achieve them. Make a master calendar that includes all of your homeschool commitments, teacher work days (you should have them to plan and prep, I have one each month), vacation time, holidays, field trips, park days, co-op’s, support meetings, etc. This will prove helpful to you when good opportunities come by, before you commit you can see if you are overscheduled. That doesn’t mean that you need to let good opportunities pass you by, but you can see what you need to switch or delete to make room for the additional activities. Next you will need to figure out what subjects you need to teach, how often (how many days a week), how many weeks and in some cases the hours you are blocking each day for school. It doesn’t really matter what format this plan is in, as long as you HAVE one that works for you and you actually LOOK AT IT and USE IT. If you don’t refer to your plan it’s useless. If you have one that is too complicated you will avoid it, or give up. If you’ve never made a plan before remember that it takes 21 days to form a habit. Stick with it, with only minor tweaking along the way, and it will soon become a useful habit.

Have a backup plan. Sometimes even the best laid plans don’t work out. So what do you when the great new curriculum that everyone raved about is getting the thumbs down from your child and leaving you pulling your hair out? Do you have a back up plan for its replacement? What will your homeschool day look like when you are unable to work with one child because you have to nurse another sick child? Do you have a box of fun educational games you can pull out, or easy projects he or she can work on by themselves? What about when the rain or snow keeps you inside for days on end and everyone is getting cabin fever? You’ve made your master plan, now include a backup plan.


Pick your uniform. Yes, I’m serious. You probably have one already. Do you get up each day, pile your hair in a twisted pony tail on top of your head, pull on some sweat pants and a ratty t-shirt or sweat shirt? If you have never done this you are one of the lucky few. Oprah did a show a few years ago where she showcased moms across the country dressed in exactly the same uniform I described above. If you are like most moms you hit the ground running each morning and probably neglect to take care of yourself and make yourself look pulled together. Doing so is not only a blessing and a gift to your husband, its one to you as well. Studies have shown you will feel better about yourself and have more energy if you are dressed for the day. Even the Flylady lists this crucial step (including shoes, not flip flops or barefeet) in her homemaking advice. So decide what your uniform will be and you will save yourself time in the morning. Living in sunny Florida my uniform includes a nice blouse and dress shorts. I lay my clothing out the night before and I keep my makeup simple so I can literally apply it all in less than 2 minutes. By investing in a good hair cut I also avoid pony-tail-knot-on-top-of-my-head syndrome and I don’t have to hide behind the soda bottles in the grocery store when I see someone that I know! What will your quick dress uniform be?

Stay connected. As keepers of our home and educators of our children we tend to isolate ourselves within our homes or families. With so much to do and seemingly few hours available to do it all, it’s easy to do. Of course it’s wonderful to spend time with your family and be content within your home; however God created us for fellowship. You were not wonderfully made for isolation. Stay connected with others, including your spouse. Have regular date nights with your spouse or just time alone that you reconnect and discuss things OTHER than your children and what needs repair in your home. Make time to connect with friends. You never know when you may need them for encouragement or when you can be a word of encouragement to them. Consider joining a local support group, Mom’s group, gym or anything that gives you opportunity to fellowship with others. Since my husband is a frequent business traveler there have been times that I have not been able to get away because I had no one to watch my children. If this is also true for you, do not despair; you can turn to online support as I did. There are numerous websites and forums you can turn to, to connect with others online. Through the years I have developed many close friendships with people that I may never have met in person, but whom I consider my friend and connect with regularly online. We offer one another friendship, advice, support, and even share tips and resources. I would also be remiss if I didn’t take this opportunity to remind you to stay connected to our Creator. He desires a relationship with you. Daily devotions and prayer are essential in your life and your homeschool so make time for them as well. One of my favorite devotionals, Devotions for Homeschool Mom’s and More devotions for homeschool mom’s by Jackie Wellwood, is written just for homeschooling Christian moms. You can also subscribe to a free daily email devotional from crosswalk.com.

Stay educated. You are a wife, mother, homemaker, and educator. Be the best you can be. Stay educated on the latest homemaking tips, parenting advice, marriage tips and educational studies and resources. Professionals regularly turn to trade publications and books to keep them current in their field. You should do the same. Especially in today’s political tide it’s critical that you keep up to date with homeschooling laws and news regarding the current state of our rights as homeschoolers. By joining local and national homeschooling support groups including HSLDA (Homeschooling Legal Defense Association) you will receive regular newsletters to keep you updated. Subscribe to homeschooling magazines, parenting magazines, and homemaking magazines that share your philosophies or beliefs. Browse your favorite library or bookstore for new releases in the areas that interest you. Read parenting advice books from sources or experts that you respect. There are numerous books and articles available to you to aid you in every possible issue or problem you may encounter while raising children.

Treat yourself to new school supplies. Most of us already do this for your children, but let’s not forget to do this for ourselves. One of my favorite memories as a child was the start of the school year. There was something about having a fresh start and new supplies that inspired me then and is still true today. Treat yourself to a new binder, book bag, pens, pencils, highlighters, file folders or even a desk organizer. Brighten up your desk or school room with something that will mark the start of a fresh new year.

Celebrate milestones. Training your children in the way they should go is a big responsibility and a long road, which sometimes is traveled more quickly than we would like. Instead of just focusing on the “big picture” don’t forget to celebrate the little milestones along the way that will one day form that end result. Celebrate milestones in both your children’s character and their education. Don’t forget to celebrate your own milestones. Did you manage to teach your child how to read despite your sometimes overwhelming fears? Did you master math while trying to teach it to your child? Did you finally come up with a meal planning system that is working well for your family? Celebrate these milestones along the way. Look for reasons to celebrate your children and your family. It makes for a happy home and an enjoyable journey.

Be prepared, present & enthusiastic. Do you have a memory of your favorite teacher in school? Emulate him or her. If you didn’t have one, now is your opportunity to be the teacher you wish you had. Give your children your time and full attention so they will give you theirs. Don’t teach distraction by example. Avoid talking on the phone or surfing the internet during your time with them. Be prepared to teach the days lessons. This means being familiar with the material and having all of the supplies necessary on hand and available. Don’t waste time running around the house looking for supplies or stopping to read the lesson plan when you should be teaching it. Being prepared makes transitioning from one activity to another easier and helps keep your children focused. Homeschooling is a gift, treat it as one. Remember you set the tone. Be excited about learning and about your time together. You have an opportunity to make traditionally boring subjects come alive. Don’t let the opportunity pass you and your children by. I promise, if you are prepared and fully present with a joyful heart, the enthusiasm will follow. I wish you and your children a great start to an exciting new school year. You can do it!



Karin Katherine is a proud stay-at-home mother of four who feels blessed to be the mother of 5 year old fraternal twin boys and two daughters, ages three and 4 months. As someone who never changed a diaper until she had children, Karin is surprised by the fact that she has been changing diapers for the past 5 years straight with no end in sight! As the 7th of 8 children, Karin feels blessed by her average size (in her mind anyway) family and wouldn’t mind a few more-- God willing and her husband notwithstanding. Her biggest homeschooling dream is to one day homeschool across the United States in an RV. Please visit her new blog Mommy Matters.

Headsprout Reading Online (and GIVEAWAY!)

I used to be a teacher. When I first started college, I really wanted to teach kindergarten. All those cute smiling faces staring up at you each morning, kids who love to give their teachers hugs, I even looked forward to wiping snotty noses. But the more time I spent in those younger classrooms, the less I wanted to teach in them. By the time I finished college, I had decided that fifth grade was the place I wanted to be.

Why? Of course there were a lot of reasons, but the main one was that I wanted kids who already knew how to read. The idea of teaching reading terrified me. All those little smiling faces, with their blank canvases waiting to be filled. What if I messed them up? What if I was UN-successful at teaching reading? I would be responsible for screwing them up, and that was not a mistake I was willing to make. Much safer to teach older children who already knew how to read – and if they didn’t, I could always send them out to remedial reading classes.

Now I have a preschool age daughter of my own, and prior to when we decided homeschool, I was looking forward to sending her to school. I was still terrified of teaching reading – especially to my own children! Now more than ever, I was afraid of making a mistake. Instead, I was perfectly happy to send them off to school to a teacher I knew little about, instead of trusting that God had given me the talent and the tools I needed to teach them at home.

After making the decision to homeschool, it became evident that I was going to have to take the reins myself. And after trying several programs that were unsuccessful in our house, I stumbled upon Headsprout, an online program for teaching reading.

When it comes to teaching reading, I think it technology scares a lot of people. It’s okay to let your children play around on the computer, you know, spend a little time at Starfall or PBS Kids, but to entrust reading to a computer program? Even I was a little hesitant to try it, and I have a very strong background in technology (a Master’s degree in Educational Technology).

There were three sample lessons available online, so I let my daughter try them out. No harm in that, right? Well, she sat down and did all three lessons in one sitting, then asked if she could do more! Since the programs we had tried earlier frequently resulted in tears, this was a good sign. Plus Headsprout was having a great sale (1/2 off the entire program!), so I figured it was worth a try. We bought the program.

The first half of the program is 40 lessons, and the second half is another 40. It is recommended for children ages four through six, although older children would benefit from it as well, even on a remedial reading level.

In addition to the online portion of the program, you are sent a package in the mail, which contains books to read aloud with your child after certain lessons, a progress map with stickers, and a reward certificate.

In each lesson, one or more sounds are introduced and practiced. After five lessons, a book is available that your child should be able to read. Books are also available to print out after subsequent lessons to practice new skills. Lessons also teach sounding out, punctuation, and comprehension.

Each lesson should take between 15-20 minutes, although it depends on the child. We took a little longer than the average time.

Headsprout also recommends doing 3-5 lessons per week. Since we generally school 4 days a week, we did 4 lessons a week in the beginning. Towards the end, we switched to doing a lesson every other day and practicing reading with the Headsprout readers on the opposite days. When we finish the program, it will have taken us about 8 months to finish the entire program.

We are currently at Lesson 72 and I am thrilled with the progress my daughter has made. She is reading very well and this is the first program we have used that did not induce tears every day.


One thing I really liked about the program were the books available to print. Since I had reservations about using an online program, having actual print material to practice reading with helped me to feel more confident about the program, and reading those books together on the couch provided some fun snuggle time for us.

Another thing I appreciate about the program (although my daughter probably would not agree) is the amount of repetition provided. There are games in each lesson which enforce the new sounds being taught. Flash cards are also available after each lesson to provide even more reinforcement, if it is needed.

Overall, my husband and I are very satisfied with the program and with the results we have seen in our daughter. I’m no longer scared of teaching reading because Headsprout has made it easy for me. I would highly recommend the program to anyone teaching reading to their child, either as a base for their reading program or at least for a portion of it.

To learn more about the program, visit Headsprout, and if you are interested in trying it out, I have great news! The Heart of the Matter and Headsprout are giving away a free subscription! If you are interested in trying out this program with your child, leave us a comment and it could be yours to try for free!



Amy is a military wife and homeschooling mom to their four year old daughter. Amy has a passion for sharing the joys of homeschooling a preschooler, as well as homeschooling in a military family. Please visit her at her blog, Allen Academy

Only "Actual Teachers" Should Read This!

A virtual school had an advertisement with a parent testimonial stating: “We have found the K12 curriculum to be far above anything we could have done on our own, plus we have the added advantage of an actual teacher for help.”


I was just sitting there innocently, when this advertisement jumped out and bit me! It was an unprovoked attack! What a frustrating, frustrating thing to read! I’m done homeschooling now. In retrospect, I know with 100% certainty that I was an ACTUAL TEACHER! Don’t be fooled! Homeschooling parents ARE actual teachers - the best possible teachers for their children.

That same virtual school had another advertisement that said: “Student/student interaction is also actively encouraged, so (this virtual school’s) students are always well-educated and well-socialized.”

Ugh! I suppose nothing drives homeschoolers crazier than the “socialization issue.” And to hear that coming from a “homeschool virtual academy” was completely unexpected. I think that groups that worry about children being “well-socialized” are NOT homeschooling groups. It’s one of those “ah ha” statements that really indicates a lot about a group.

You can confidently stand your ground anytime someone tells you that you need a classroom experience to be “well-socialized.” Be polite, but firm, and explain that your homeschooled children ARE well-socialized, and they didn’t need a classroom environment to get that way. Friends and family, people of all ages, and the normal comings and goings of your life provide all you need to “socialize” your children.

When my children graduated from homeschool, they were both given full-tuition scholarships to their first choice university. We were so excited when that happened, and I was thrilled that our academic work was valued so highly by the college. And then I heard the truth about the scholarship. There were a couple of thousand students admitted to the college that year but only 100 were invited to an all-day competition for a full-tuition scholarship. Of those 100, only ten were chosen for the full-tuition scholarship.

Homeschoolers brought home 20% of those prizes that year (grin!).

I found out that my boys weren’t chosen for their academics at all! All 100 kids invited had great grades and SAT scores. Instead, the students were evaluated based on how they interacted with the other students and adults when they thought nobody was looking.

Did you catch that? They were given the scholarship because of their socialization skills!

We live at home with our kids, and we see their occasionally rotten behavior more than anyone else – maybe that’s all we can see in front of us! But we can also spend all day molding and shaping our children, and that’s why socialization isn’t a problem. We have all that time needed to help them work through those socialization issues in the home.

I saw an advertisement for another online school. Their advertisement said: “One to one student/teacher interaction…. give your child an education comparable to the best private schools” and “You can enroll… to receive curriculum and teacher service.”

I know that it’s the season for curriculum choices, and you will be FLOODED with homeschool advertisements. I just want to point out that with independent homeschooling you ALSO have a one-to-one student-teacher interaction. And you don’t need online help to get it! And homeschoolers have MORE than just a great student-teacher ratio because a homeschooling parent is MORE than a teacher, not less. Parents are love-givers of their children, not just care-givers. It’s the love that makes all the difference. It’s the love that will help us know what is best for our children, and it is love that will give us the wisdom to guide them into adulthood.

May I also suggest that we shouldn’t want to be compared to ANY school, not even a good one. We have a saying in our family, “Never compare – someone always gets hurt.” That is true if you are comparing yourself to other schools as well. We don’t want to be like “the best private school” or an “award winning public school,” or even like someone else’s homeschool. Instead, we want to be the best school FOR OUR CHILD. To do that, you have to have LOVE. Not a certified teacher, not special training – just the knowledge of your own child.

Don’t stress about being as good as “the best.” Strive to do what’s right for your child. That *is* the best education. With that in mind, we can be our own “teacher service,” and homeschool with confidence.

And then there is the ad for an accredited national high school that says “Honors and AP courses are available.” Just to be perfectly clear, honors and AP courses are available to homeschoolers as well. Anyone can take an AP test – even homeschoolers! If you give an AP or CLEP exam, or teach a subject in great depth, then you can give honors designation for that as well. This particular program emphasizes that it is an “Accredited Program.” Did you know that accreditation isn’t necessary for college admission? Often a hang-up with high schools, colleges are fairly used to dealing with high schools that are not accredited. Often colleges don’t really know if a school is accredited or not! That’s why they ask for standardized test scores (SAT or ACT) from everyone, not just homeschoolers. So don’t jump through hoops just to get accreditation, because it’s not all it’s cracked up to be.

We didn’t go the accredited route, and both of my students we admitted to all four colleges they applied to, with full-tuition scholarships to Seattle Pacific University. The "accredited national high school" mentioned earlier offers a “High School Diploma.” That may be, but my homeschool offered a high school diploma as well. I bought mine at www.homeschooldiploma.com, in case you are interested.

This advertisement had one other part that I really loved, “Support from highly qualified, certified teachers.” Now I’ll agree that sometimes it does help to get the support of an experienced teacher, but it does concern me when advertisers tout “certified teachers.” If you need support, then what you need is SUPPORT. That doesn’t need to come from someone who is certified in education. Many parents look to support from a homeschool consultant who truly knows homeschooling and can ENCOURAGE you in your homeschooling journey.

Four Things to Remember:
  • Avoid programs that discourage or dissuade you from homeschooling

  • Don’t accept the implication that you somehow aren’t qualified.

  • Remember: you ARE an “actual teacher!”

  • You are providing the social skills your kids need to shine in this world


Lee Binz is a veteran homeschooling mom of two and the owner of The HomeScholar, "Helping parents homeschool through high school." You can sign up for her free email newsletter The HomeScholar Record and get your daily dose of wisdom via e-mail from The HomeScholar Blog.

How the Other Side Thinks

Originally published on Heart of the Matter Online 7/24/08

One of my favorite Bible professors in college started class one day by opening his Bible and saying, "Scholars claim that no other passage shows the errors of Scripture more than Luke 2:1-4." [That's the passage that tells about the days when Quirinius was governor, Augustus took a census of the whole Roman world, so Joseph went to his hometown to be registered.]

Silence.

My professor went on, "We have no record of the census mentioned in the passage but we do of many others around this time. We know that Quirinius was not governor for another six years. And what's more, the Romans did not require people to register in their home towns."

Again, he let that sink in.

Then he asked the class to respond. No one could. I was as lost as everyone else.

The Turn

There have been few moments in my life where I can say that an event changed me. This was one of them. Not that I went home and studied the Bible differently, or suddenly decided to become a pastor. No, the shift was far more subtle than that. It was a realization that I needed to become more aware of the other side of an argument.

I had spent my previous years in high school debating evolution with my secular classmates. I could tear everyone apart because I knew my side so well. Any time someone would bring up an argument, I started to smile. I already knew the answer. The rebuttal. I could sit in a circle of seven of my classmates and debate them all. I was unstoppable.

But no one really listened. I didn't convince anyone. I argued. I never lost. But, then again, I never won.

And that day in college gave me a glimpse into why no one bothered to really listen to me. It was because I had never really listened to them. They, like me, knew their side. And so, like me, they ignored the other side. So, in essence, we were talking past each other, at each other, but never to each other. In debate, this process has a formal name. It's called "The Turn". It's where you take what the previous speaker has said and "turn" it so you can claim they were actually arguing for your side.

It's effective. Disgusting--but effective at helping you "win" debates. But it's not very useful when it comes to arriving at truth.

The Truth

That morning, sitting in Bible class, I was confronted with the terrifying reality that I had no way of arriving at truth. I knew I had to wait for my professor to tell me why the Bible was still an accurate rendition of history. And he did. And it was actually fun, rewarding, and positively enjoyable to hear the rebuttals. Truth was accessible again; the Bible reliable; our faith well-grounded.

From that day on, I no longer feared the other side of an argument. I certainly still worry that I won't have a good response like that day in class, but I am free to listen to the claims and accusations of the other side. I can truly hear what they have to say, and I don't have to hide behind my well-rehearsed arguments. I can look the opposition in the eye and let him dump everything he's got on me. Then I can dig through the muck and, with the help of those who have gone before me, arrive at the truth. And, since he has seen me listen to him, my opponent may be more willing to listen to me.

And this openness is something we need to encourage in those around us: Friends, family, and children. It's something we need to encourage within the Christian and homeschooling community as well. Not that we all need to devote our lives to apologetics, politics, or science, but we should be willing to consider the arguments of those who disagree with us. And as we consider those ideas together, in a give and take discussion, we will have a much higher chance of arriving at truth with the other person, rather than sitting on it alone.

Let the Light In

So what are the pet doctrines and beliefs you hold to? Do you have a particular stance on, say, birth control, evolution, politics, abortion, capital punishment, the age of the earth, eschatology, modesty, or dating? As a particularly opinionated person--my mother assures me I come by "honestly"--I have an opinion on almost all of these subjects, and plenty more. But as my opinions solidify, I am learning to leave them open to the honest questions raised by others. This is not indiscriminate open-mindedness, but rather, as my dad once quoted to me, "The purpose of an open mind is to close it again on something solid." Thus, if you find yourself particularly passionate about a subject or issue, may I encourage you to look into the other side's perspective. You may discover a need to tweak your own beliefs, or you may find that you are more convinced of your position than before. In either case, you will be better able to communicate with those who hold to the other side.

And as you talk with your children, may I encourage you also to expose them to the statements and arguments of positions you do not hold. As you do this, you will begin laying the foundation for them to grow up to be winsome and effective ambassadors for Christ, able to discern the truth and share it with others. This will also allow them to have those moments, like I did that day in college, where their faith is reaffirmed, their resolve strengthened, and their hearts made ready and humble for when they discuss difficult issues with others.

Luke Holzmann is the son of John and Sarita Holzmann, founders of Sonlight Curriculum, Ltd., in Littleton, CO, where he is the Media Relations Specialist. He attended Biola University, in La Mirada, CA, and earned the BA in Motion Picture Production. You can find his work at http://www.sonlightblog.com/, production-now.com, and lukeholzmann.blogspot.com.

Hypocrite Proofing the Home

Originally published on Heart of the Matter Online 7/28/08

Recently, a friend called and was a little stressed; her son had begun asking difficult math questions. These weren’t your ordinary difficult math questions. She called me because she knew I could relate – like her, I also have an age discrepancy between my wedding date vs my child’s birth (not to mention my oldest daughter was my flower girl). “How’d that happen, mom?” Maybe some of you are in the same boat? Are you dreading certain subjects that might be a little bit… ahem… awkward?

How do you teach your kids what is right when they cannot look to your childhood or young adulthood as an example? My friend was feeling a little anxious and was worried that her child might be shaken up over the news that his parents were not the picture perfect model of purity and chastity.

It was a neat conversation. I have never thought of my past as being a ‘scary topic’. On the contrary, I truly believe that for those of us who were saved later in life, our past affords a great opportunity to personally illustrate the most incredible thing in the universe.

Very early on, my husband and I always tried to be completely real and transparent in front of our kids about who Christ is and how He came to save sinners. Sinners like us, and sinners like them. Even when they were very young I would take advantage of opportunities to let my kids know that my life was a slimy mess when I did not walk in obedience to God (and that it can still be a slimy mess when I don’t walk in obedience to God… but more on that later). And even still, when my children notice somebody who seems particularly wicked: a nasty, rebellious looking teenager yelling at their parents, an immodestly dressed woman, the drunk man who makes a spectacle of himself in town, etc, I let them know, “It looks like they don’t know our Lord”. And I also let them know, “Kids, before I knew the Lord, my actions looked even uglier. There are a lot of things that God has saved me from. I am grateful for His mercy and grace”.

No, I don’t think that my past will be a stumbling block to my children. My past is an incredible testimony of the Truth of Christ, which transforms lives completely. If I am faithful, it is an opportunity to live out a beautiful life of grace and love that has been born out of what used to be a miserable mess. The challenge is not the past, the challenge is the present. If we claim Christ today, what are our kids seeing in our lives here and now? I know from personal experience that if the mama is acting like a nasty sea hag all day, but instantly transforms into a smiling, sweet, sappy saint when the pastor’s wife suddenly rings up on the phone, a very loud character training message is being sent. If we claim Christ, we cannot be liars.

It is not just the outward, blatant sins that should have been ‘put away with the old man’ The nastiness of hypocritical, angry, dominating spirits – those sour, prideful sins are possibly even more ugly and destructive than the others. It’s how we live now, while claiming Christ, where real damage can be done.

The homeschool community is an interesting one. It is growing by leaps and bounds, yet it still seems predominantly comprised of families that are Christian and Conservative. I wonder how (or if) these parents of first and second generation homeschoolers are hypocrite proofing the home. As much as I hate to admit it, it seems likely to find an air of arrogance and hypocrisy with these ‘above average Christian kids’. These kids know the statistics; they know they are outscoring their public school counterparts academically. When they meet strangers at the store, on an airplane, in the doctor’s office, at church, they hear the same thing, “You seem so mature. You communicate so well. Most kids your age don’t have your kind of manners.” Etc etc etc.


Yes, homeschoolers are getting a reputation for generally being better behaved, more mature, better communicators, more socially adept and involved, less inclined to ‘follow the crowd’. But are they also getting a reputation for being snobs, uncompassionate, and prideful? For those of us who claim Christ (and for our young homeschoolers whom claim Christ) this should never be the case.

There is a story in Luke 7:36. It begins with a Pharisee who desired to have Jesus dine with him, so Jesus went to his home for a meal. While he was there, it says that a woman, who was a ‘known sinner’ heard that he was at the Pharisee’s house, so she brought an alabaster box of ointment, and she stood at Jesus’ feet, behind him, weeping. And she began wiping her tears off of his feet with her own hair and anointed his feet with the oil. When the Pharisee saw this, it says that he thought to himself, “If this Jesus was truly a prophet he would know what manner of woman who is touching him”. And Jesus spoke to him and said, “There was a certain creditor which had two debts: the one owed five hundred pence and the other owed fifty. And when they had nothing to pay, he frankly forgave them both. Tell me, then, which one of those two debtors will love him the most?” and the Pharisee answered, “I suppose that it would be the one whom he forgave more, that will love him the most” And Jesus told him that he judged correctly, and then he said, “Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven , that one loves little. I don’t know about you, but that really compels me to desire to teach my kids the full truth. I cannot just teach them what they should not do. The void left by the “don’t dos” needs to be filled in with what they should do. “Don’t do this, do this instead”. If my character training boils down to, “don’t dress like Susie, she looks like a hooker” or if I am simply pointing out the faults in others as examples of Christian failure, then I am setting up myself, and my kids, to be the biggest ugliest Pharisees that ever walked the continent.

Our children’s good manners, superior education, modest clothing, hard work ethics, community service, bible verse recitation, or various other ‘deeds’ cannot save them. In all actuality there is a potential there to accidentally cultivate a false sense of security that becomes a significant danger to them later. Don’t get me wrong, these are all very good things and we are wise to train our children in righteousness, diligence, and the like. My entire point is that we must not neglect to train them in humility, compassion and kindness. How do you teach a child that? Do they realize they are sinners? Do they know how far away they are from God? Do they know they need a savior? Or are they like the Pharisee in Luke 18:9 who stood praying to himself, saying “Thank you God for not making me like other men, extortionists, unjust, adulterers, or like that tax collector” While the tax collector, who had been used as the Pharisees ‘object lesson’, would not even look up to heaven, and he beat his chest and cried, “Be merciful to me, a sinner!” Who do you think was justified? Christ said that “Everyone who exalts themselves will be abased, and he who humbles himself will be exalted”

This is not the easiest letter for me to write, because I know I am guilty of not training my kids in humility by my example. It is easier to have a ‘works oriented’ mindset. It is easier to hand out lists than to lead by example. And it is easy to fall into a false philosophy that goes in the other extreme that says, “Don’t shelter your kids from the world, let them experience a bit of sin so they will see their need for God” (yes, there really is tripe like that making the rounds)

Nobody said it would be easy. And you, like me, may have days where there is a temptation to hand off this huge responsibility to somebody else (or somebody we think is ‘more qualified’). Well, sorry, my friend. God chose YOU to be their parent. And He must know that you are capable for the task. Nothing is impossible with Him. Love God. Know Him. Obey His Word, seek Him first above all else. It is not impossible. It is imperative. It is what we are called to.
God bless you as you seek Him. We are in this together. I pray we will be faithful with the treasure He has given us.



Jenefer Igarashi is married to Geoff the Great and homeschools their six children (ages 4 – 19) near the Smoky Mountains in East TN. They keep busy by raising chickens (for eggs and meat) and also goats (for milk and meat). Those six kids come in mighty handy as slave labor. Just kidding. Sort of. The next project is to "successfully" garden and to put in more fruit trees and raise honey bees. This has all been a major change from their fast paced life in California. It's always an adventure. Visit Jen at her blog, http://www.jenig.us/

Battle of the Sexes

Originally published on Heart of the Matter Online 7/14/08

I get furious at times because my children simply won’t cooperate. Why can’t they be quiet and alert, paying attention to every detail of every assignment, and get it right the first time? Why must multiplication be an equivalent to a trip to the dentist? Why can’t my children sit still in a chair for five minutes without tapping a pencil, shaking their head from side to side, making paper airplanes out of their assignment, or flipping upside down in a chair? I still don’t think they realize that they can’t write with their toes.Yes, that photo is the view from where I'm sitting.

I especially have a problem with my youngest son. He is seven and (confession time) has yet to complete a whole worksheet. He likes to look at the page and just answer them out loud. He doesn’t like to write during school time although he has no problem whatsoever with writing his alphabet in permanent marker on a leather recliner. He also has no issues with writing his name, full name mind you, in paint on the kitchen table. Thank goodness for washable paints! He is a bundle of energy that cannot be harnessed yet, he seems to learn more than I try to teach him even though he isn’t present for the whole lesson.

I had coffee with Darnelle, a dear friend and mentor, recently about the testosterone laden issues I have with homeschooling and she blatantly told me to, “chill out.” She said boys are just different from girls and we should just let them learn in a way that best suits them. If there only interested in crawfish that come out of the stinky, slime filled canal behind the neighbors house then let them count and subtract the critters. I also learned that if I take photos of them in the act of doing such gross things as “crawfishing” in a canal then print the photos on paper with blank lines underneath then ask them to write a story about their adventure that they are more likely to do it. I also have to remember that he is only seven and that if he is solid in math and reading right now then I am accomplishing something.

I also realized that boys tend to think better when they are doing something. After all, when men need to think they usually accompany that by working on a car, playing video games, or building a computer from scratch. Somehow this helps them process the information and absorb it. So, my son tapping a pencil on the table or dancing in the chair while reading is actually his way of learning. This is hard for me to understand since I can’t walk and chew gum at the same time but hey, boys and girls are just different. Besides, I completely trust what Darnelle says considering the fact that most of her kids are near geniuses and all.

Something else that I realized is that when they are ready to go full force with their learning… they go full force. One child went from not wanting to even do a single math problem one year to wanting to write essays then next and it has only gotten better since then.

I don’t know what girls are like since I don’t have one but I imagine that most of them are somewhat cooperative doing lessons and more appreciative of good literature. I also imagine them sitting daintily in a chair (even if they don’t want to) while mom teaches a lesson. I have a niece who makes a mockery of the statements I just made but I know as a child that I was more receptive to learning than the boys in my class. Most of my little girl friends were as well. What do you all think about the battle of the sexes?



Amy Bayliss is 3rd year homeschooling mom to three boys. She enjoys writing about the eclectic teachings that bring a glimmer of curiosity to the eyes of her sons. In addition to being the Co-owner and Director of Development for Heart of the Matter, she writes for CWO's Internet Cafe. Be sure to visit her blog, In Pursuit of Proverbs 31.

How To Tell WHY Your Child Is Struggling (Part 4 of 4)

(This is the last of a 4 part series.)

Many educators who follow brain research believe that there are four "Learning Gates" that need to be properly functioning for a child to have an easy time learning.

The Four "Learning Gates" are:

1. Visual processing
2. Visual/motor processing (writing)
3. Auditory processing
4. Focus/attention processing

This article will review information regarding the fourth learning gate:


Focus/Attention Processing:

When a child is having to use too much energy to keep his mind on his work, then that is the area that is a learning block to him. This child often has a body chemistry that is upset, and can be changed with simple methods at home. At times a parent finds that working with a professional in this area is most helpful.


Often a parent will say of such a child: “He can focus on movies, video games, or Legos for hours, but can't focus on his schoolwork for more than five minutes.” It is important to realize what is going on, so we don’t become frustrated with this type of child. Movies, video games, or Legos require little energy because children find them interesting and undemanding. On the other hand, a history or math lesson requires much more effort on the child’s part. If the child has an “energy leak” in a certain area, then he will have to work much harder to remain focused. Therefore it is important to determine whether a child is struggling with an academic task because of an actual learning block, which causes task avoidance (because of its difficulty), or a focusing problem.

Many times these children are struggling with sensory integration issues that make them look unfocused.

We’ll look at the characteristics of a child struggling with a focus issue, and a child struggling with sensory integration issues separately, even though they often overlap.

The official terms that are often used for children who have difficulty remaining focused on a task that they are capable of doing are Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).

ADD refers to a child who is not acting out or moving around, and can even look attentive during a task, but is generally absorbed in his own thoughts and daydreams to the point that he gets little done in the amount of time allotted.

A child who is thought to be ADHD is generally hyperactive. This child has a motor that is always running that he seems incapable of controlling. He does everything in a hurry, and some part of his body always appears to be moving, which keeps him quite distracted.

The hyperactive child (not just hyper-fidgety) is usually easy to spot in a group. The inattentive child, on the other hand, is not easy to spot. This child just appears to be slow in finishing work, or in following directions. He or she may seem lazy or uncooperative.

In a homeschool setting we do not have to focus on labels, or official diagnoses most of the time. We just need to discover if the child we are working with exhibits enough symptoms to warrant further exploration on this topic. In homeschooling we can focus on the solution, rather than a label.


Since learning is all about energy output, we should ask ourselves why a child has to expend more energy to remain focused on a task than his or her siblings. Once this question is answered, then the action becomes clear.

ADD Checklist

  • Distractibility
  • No persistence with a task
  • Inconsistency in performance from one day to another
  • Excessive daydreaming during a school related task
  • Needs to have mom next to him or her in order to finish work
  • Forgetfulness (of previously learned material, daily plans, etc.)


ADHD Checklist

A child struggling with the more active form of a focusing issue will display some of these characteristics:
  • Excess motor activity (something is always moving)
  • Impulsiveness (acts without thinking much of the time)
  • Insatiability (never satisfied with an activity)
  • Poor response to discipline
  • Moodiness
  • Sleep disturbances (very restless sleeper)
Informal Evaluation

The difficulty with determining if your child has a focusing issue is that parents often do not have a strong basis of comparison if they only have one other child at home who is homeschooling. Thus, it is important to solicit information and observations from the other adults in the child’s life who works with him in both an academic and non-academic setting.

Remember, that to be a real focusing issue, the symptoms must present themselves in more than one setting. It is important to differentiate between a child whose main problem is focusing, from a child who is exhibiting task avoidance because of academic struggles. For example, if your child’s Sunday School teacher says that he or she listens attentively to lessons, and participates lively in the discussions that follow, but “gets silly” or doesn’t complete assigned worksheets, you can consider that this child has a learning glitch instead of a focusing problem. The child with difficulty focusing frequently does not attend to orally presented information enough to participate well in the ensuing discussion.

On the other hand, if your child’s karate teacher says that he needs to continually redirect your child’s attention during lessons (those that are very active and hands-on), you might consider that this child is struggling to maintain focus when his peers do not need to expend any energy for this task.



How You Can Determine if Your Child Has a Focusing Issue

  • Checklists, such as the one above help identify a child with an issue.
  • Pediatricians can help decipher the observations you have of your child.
  • Conners Behavior Scale, or BASC can be obtained by your physician. These are informal questionnaires to be completed by parents and other adults who work with your child in an academic setting. The results are calibrated to determine if the child is merely at risk of an attention problem, or actually is showing attention problem symptoms in more than one setting.
  • Sunday School teachers, co-op teachers leaders, and other adults who work with your children can help determine if he or she is experiencing a problem.

Resources for Correction

There are two ways that children who have to expend more energy than their peers to focus can be helped. One way is to use compensation, and the other is to employ correction of the problem.

Since it takes time for any correctional program to work, we really need to do both procedures. We compensate for the problem, while designing and implementing an effective correctional program.

In determining the best way to correct a child’s processing problem that is affecting his ability to focus on a task, we need to consider that this child likely has an upset chemistry. The basis for this assumption is the long history of the use of medication used with children with a focusing issue. These medications are designed to help the child focus with more ease, by making the neurotransmitters responsible for the process of focusing, more available to the brain and nervous system.

If a parent decides to try some medication for this purpose, then the child’s pediatrician is the place to start. Sometimes parents try various medications, only to find the side effects to be unacceptable. So it’s a good idea to also consider alternative ways to help balance the child’s upset body chemistry.

Other times the parents are not interested in pursuing medication at all, but realize that their child is struggling too hard to focus, so still needs some help in producing and releasing the necessary neurotransmitters. This is when parents often turn to a nutritionist, naturopath, chiropractor, or nutritionally oriented physician to explore alternatives that seem to help so many children.

We will explore both compensations and corrections for these struggling children. In homeschooling we have a unique opportunity to help the child learn how to control his own behavior, through gentle behavior modification. We also have the opportunity to give this child more time and attention, taking the burden off of his focusing system. We can plan school days that help this child gain as much information as possible from the material, without the frustration of always being behind, or not knowing what to do. It is very rewarding to work with these learners in the home setting.


Compensations

Employ one-on-one tutoring. Children with attention problems thrive when an adult works one-on-one with them. These children struggle to complete work on their own, and find the frequent reminders to hurry up and complete their work debilitating. (See “Managing the Homeschool Teaching Day with a Struggling Learner” in the section following, to learn how to get this important time with your child, while still working with your other children).

Choose a curriculum that does not require mainly independent work (such as a computer curriculum program, or a self-paced program. These types of programs can be a HUGE stress producer for a focus challenged student!)

Reduce workbook exercises and busy work, such as copying and repeating math problems, as much as possible.

Buy good quality earphones for this child. He could use them to block out distracting noise, or you could have him listen to classical music softly while working on assignments.

Keep this child close to you throughout the day. Your proximity makes a big difference in his ability to focus. You do not always have to interact with him. Just be near him. Even when you are teaching another child, this child can be next to you with his earphones on, completing his work.

Group assignments. When approaching a math page with many problems on it, put a star by those you want him to do in that sitting period. If you are only having him do some of the problems on the page, not all, then he can put a large “X” over the ones he doesn’t have to do. This is very satisfying for the child. If you can’t do that, then use construction paper to cover the problems on the bottom half of the page so he doesn’t have to see them when he is working on the top half. (Sometimes this adjustment, alone, can make a very big difference in the attitude at the beginning of an assignment.)

Focus on study skills. If your child is prone to make mistakes when doing math problems, have him mark all the similar problems with red, and do them first. These children don’t transition well, because transitions require more focusing power. Doing all like problems together greatly decreases their need to focus, ensuring few errors on a page. (Another simple, yet extremely effective idea.)

Take breaks. Many little breaks, versus one big break, helps these children stay on task. (If you're teaching young boys, this is a biggie!)

Involve dad. Assign one subject for dad to do with the child in the evening when he is home. Dads often have a different approach to teaching, and the child gets the important one-on-one time that helps him be successful. Make sure that dad knows the chunking approach, and how to reduce mundane, repetitive tasks.

Use more right brain strategies, since these employ color, humor, weirdness, etc., to put “Velcro” on the information presented. These children may not necessarily be right brain learners, but the engaging aspects of right brain strategies keep them interested, and uses less focusing energy. For example, when explaining a new concept or showing how to memorize material, make it fun by having your child help you draw sketches with colored markers.

Adjust your expectations. Your other children may complete tasks without constant reminders, or may actually be able to perform chores without your intervention. If your special needs child could do that, he gladly would. He wants to please also, but does not have the physical ability to bring this about. He is as disappointed in himself as you are. If you have asked him to do three things, and he completed just one, and comes to you, think about saying, “Let’s do the other two tasks together.” This takes such pressure off the child, and models how to get several tasks done in a row, without the feeling of failure.

If your child had a disabled arm or leg, it would be so much easier to adjust your expectations without feeling that you weren’t teaching him how to be responsible. This child has as real a disability, but because it is not visible it can so easily be seen as sloppiness, irresponsibility, or laziness. God will help you find the right way to work with your child :)

Corrections

Medications: Even though most homeschooling parents are not interested in the use of medications to help their child focus, the discussion is included here, since there may be times when it is necessary, even if it is only for a short period of time.
  • Serotonin boosting medications:
    • Ritalin (short release time)
    • Concerta (sustained release time)
    • Antidepressants (Zoloft, Prozac, Effexor, Wellbutrin, etc.)

  • Stimulants:
    • Adderall (amphetamines)

  • Dopamine boosting medication:
    • Strattera

All medications come with the risk of side effects, of course. Parents must weigh the potential benefits against the potential risks before deciding whether or not to use medications.

Diet: It has been known for over 20 years (starting with Dr. Feingold and his famous Feingold Diet) that by reducing sugars, colorings, and preservatives, children with attention disorders have a much easier time focusing. (I have personally had incredible success here.)

Many parents report that when they change the diet of all children at home, that they see a tremendous difference in learning ability and behavior. Some of the diet recommendations that seem to be the most effective include:

**Reduce sugar intake. It’s the hidden sugars that get us in trouble, such as the sweeteners in fruit juice, boxed cereals, granola bars, fruit rollups, soft drinks, chocolate milk, pancakes, waffles, etc. Remember that a Snickers candy bar has about 30 grams of carbohydrates, and 35 grams of sugar. When you add the two together, you get 65 grams. Without realizing it, we often feed our children this same amount of sugar by just giving them juice and a bowl of cereal. For many children, consuming this much sugar contributes to their difficulty focusing and controlling their moods.

**Increase raw fruit and vegetable intake. As we know from the research in books such as Children with Starving Brains by Dr. Chandless, many children are low in essential vitamins, minerals and fatty acids. These children either are not getting the daily nutrients they need for their brain to function well, or they are eating the correct foods, but are not absorbing the nutrients found in the food.

The enzymes contained in raw foods greatly assist the digestive system in absorbing nutrients. This can make a huge difference with some children. To make this difference, parents always had grapes, apples, bananas, watermelon, cantaloupe, and other fruit around to eat, and made sure the children had three servings a day. These parents also kept a plate of raw vegetables such as carrots, celery, broccoli, cauliflower, and green pepper strips along with plenty of ranch dressing around for lunch.

**Use less processed food. As the pioneering Dr. Feingold, and many of the researchers following him, found when food is boxed, it is filled with preservatives. Those preservatives can be very toxic to a child’s nervous system. Processed food also has no life in it. The rule of thumb for brain-healthy eating is to shop as much as you can in the periphery of the grocery store, where the plugs are in the walls. Buying food that is refrigerated in the store ensures you that the life-giving nutrients are still in there. When it is canned or boxed, the live nutrients, such as the fats that are good for the brain have been removed so that they do not turn rancid on the shelf. Of course, there are some good brain fats that are not refrigerated…such as cans of tuna or salmon and mayonnaise.

**Increase water intake. Children are often tired because they are dehydrated. They do not drink enough water during the day. A great book that details all the symptoms of being low in water intake is Your Body’s Many Cries for Water by Dr. Batmangahlidj. He recommends that children drink half their weight in ounces of water. Making adequate water intake during the day a family priority is very helpful for many families. Water helps eliminate histamine and other toxins from the body.

Summary:
There are many things to consider as we teach our children and discover any struggles they may be experiencing. We must keep in mind the "big picture" as we teach. It is so easy to get caught up in being disappointed that some of our learners will struggle and that these struggles will cost us time, and effort, and work and usually, patience beyond our ability on most days. Remind yourself that God Himself has placed this child in YOUR care. He has done so because no one else is as uniquely equipped to parent him/her and educate him/her as you. No one else.

As you consider the suggestions in this article, I encourage you to bring each one before the Father. Though these things are a mystery to us, something to be figured out like a puzzle, they are no mystery to Him. He knows. He knows the exact path that your sweet student needs to take in order "unlock" his/her ability to learn and flourish in all things. And, He is so very willing to share the details with you. The One who created our sons and daughters has enormous plans for their future and we are privileged to be a part of bringing that to pass.


**(Compiled from an article by Dianne Craft - HSLDA Special Needs Coordinator)**




Darnelle is a wife and a mother to 5 children: 4 home schoolers who are currently in 3rd, 7th, 9th, and 11th grades and one who has graduated from home school and is a college sophomore. All 5 children have been home schooled from preschool. She has many years of teaching experience in public, private, parochial, and special schools, but her favorite is home school! Her certification is in the areas of special education and remediation. In her column, Darnelle aims to assist parents in finding and then correcting the trouble spots that often cause academic problems and struggles. Children (and their parents) who are freed from the heavy burden of academic struggles can begin to love learning again - just like God intended! Visit her blog, All Things Work Together.

Homeschool Built on Christ

So You've Chosen to Homeschool
Maybe you recently made this decision, or maybe you've been homeschooling for years, yet you feel unsure, lost, confused, and are left wondering, "Why, exactly, am I doing this? How do I do it?"

Start at the Beginning


Unless the LORD builds the house, they labor in vain who build it. Unless the LORD guards the city, the watchman stays awake in vain. [Psalm 127:1]





Start with Yourself
When you build a new home, you must first clear the land. Sometimes that means clearing away an existing building. Often, we must clear away our own intentions, expectations, and preconceived notions before we begin homeschooling. If your children have already been in an institutional school, you may have to help them clear away those as well.

Start with Christ
Begin your journey with prayer. Pray about the method you should use and the direction you should take. Begin each day with prayer. If you section out subjects, you may want to even begin each subject with prayer.

Don't be stubborn. Understand that God knows best, and be open to and aware of His direction. It is easy to get focused on your own plan and agenda. God knows your children's strengths and weaknesses. You may feel they are behind. Stop comparing your children and yourself to other
homeschooling families. It's not a race.

Remember, God is the architect. He has the blueprint. We need to follow it in order to have the outcome He desires.

Set the example
Inspirational author Wilferd A. Peterson said, "Our children are watching us live, and what we are shouts louder than anything we can say." Peterson has a great point. If we want a lesson to stick, we need to teach by example. This is called discipleship. Jesus taught his followers by
walking the walk, not just talking the talk. We cannot expect our children to have a foundation in Christ if we don't. We cannot expect our children to love learning if we don't.

Keep your children close. Allow them to help out as much as possible. Yes, it will take longer. When they are young, give them a verbal "play-by-play." Tell them what you are doing, and explain each step. Don't rush it or be impatient. I know, this can be difficult to do, but the more you practice it, the easier it will be for you to do without feeling hurried. Be calm. Be kind. Be patient. That's the key.

Sow the seeds
If your children seem uninterested in something like numbers or colors, you can easily sow the seeds of knowledge without sitting them down and cramming in lessons (which will only frustrate them). Go on walks, and point out the colors of flowers, cars, and houses. Count how many cars are in the driveways. Count how many windows on a house. When you start out, just point out that there are "two cars" in the drive way. "A red one and a yellow one!" After doing this several times, you can ask them the questions. "How many cars in that driveway? What colors are they?" When you give your children directions, use colors and shapes if possible. For example, "Sally, can you pick up the green, rectangular box of wipes?"

Find little ways to sow the seeds. Allow your children to "catch you" praying. Allow them to say a prayer when you begin a session or before a meal. If everyone around the table wants to say a prayer at lunch time, allow it.

Children are known to have endless questions. Try turning the tables! Ask them the questions. Get their opinions, ideas, and thoughts. Here are some great lead-ins for questions.


"How do you feel when...?"

"How do you think ____ feels when...?"

"What do you think we should do in this situation?"

"Why do you think...?"

"What would you do...?"

Psalm 37:5 reads, "Commit your way to the LORD, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass." Commit your way. Commit your life. Not parts of it; all of it. We have a tendency to separate "church from state," so to speak, but the bible says we need to be in Christ and Him in us. If that is so, then there is no separation at all. Let God guide you, let God guide your home, and let God guide your schooling.

Over the next few months, we'll explore these areas more in depth, so stay tuned!



Mandy is a homeschool graduate who has set out to homeschool her three young munchkins in an unschooling meets discipleship method. In her column "Delightfully Discipled," she gives a glimpse into the curious minds of her children as they follow their natural instincts to explore the heights and depths of knowledge and are led though Godly discipleship. She blogs at MandyMom.com and Noggin News.